We just don't know what to do about the respite now, our Admiral Nurse said if FIL goes in for more than 2 weeks and settles it would be unfair to bring him home, we are really concerned how this would affect my MIL, we are suggesting her husband of 55 years goes into a nursing home and she is left at home on her own, we just don't know how she would cope with that.
We've had a couple of incidents over the last 5 days, he still doesn't recognise MIL throughout the day, but hasn't been getting too worked up about it. He is sundowning on an evening and wanting to go home which he gets frustrated about, but between us all we seem to be distracting him by calling to see him or taking him out, as with everything with AD though, this could just be temporary and it could get worse again. He is sleeping really well at night, so MIL is getting a decent nights sleep.
But knowing that we have the paperwork in place for Respite if required, is a smaller step to the full on moving him to a nursing home. We've now got in him daycare twice a week and we will try for another day in a couple of weeks. I know we are putting off the inevitable, but my husband just wants us to try and keep him at home with his mum for as long as possible.
The decisions are just so difficult. Is anyone else having or had this situation where one parent is left at home alone when their husband/wife has to go into a nursing home.
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