My mum has had symptoms of dementia for many years, these have deteriorated over the past year. My step dad who cares for her was recently admitted to hospital, we tried to look after her as felt she wasn't safe alone. She refused all help saying she was fine but started repeatedly calling the hospital demanding they send her husband home finally threatening to kill herself. As a result she was admitted and has been assessed as not having capacity. My step dad is still in hospital and has been told he will not be well enough to care for mum when he returns home. Mum has been admitted to a specialist nursing home where she has been behaving quite aggressively. She has to be in isolation for 10 days due to covid and there is a keypad lock on her room. Mum thinks she is in a hotel, but also is being kept against her will. She doesn't remember her husband is in hospital. When I spoke to her yesterday she was very angry and threatened to never speak to me again unless I went to get her. This is not my mum and I was heartbroken for her. The staff are doing their best but I feel terrible, she is 90 and manages all her activities of daily living but has lost her capacity for thinking normally. Would welcome any advice.