Hi, another thread looking for other people’s experiences.
My mum has been in hospital for over a month after fracturing her hip falling of the edge of her bed. Before she went in we were asking professionals for help with her, at that time, undiagnosed , Alzheimer’s which they refused to give . Once she was admitted it very quickly became clear to them that she had these needs and over a period of a week she had a diagnosis of Mid Level Alzheimer’s.
Over the past month plus she has been in four wards and been moved to an isolation unit when she tested positive for asymptomatic COVID. Each ward and indeed person we speak to has a different interpretation of my mum’s needs. On Tuesday morning mum was due to transfer to a nursing home, only to be stopped by the positive test. Now the isolation unit is saying she is fine, no sign of confusion, no more apparent physical reasons to need nursing home care.I thought we had two weeks to get our heads round this change of heart but today I have been told she can be discharged next week So care needs to be organised.
Immediate dilemma , do we hold firm on the nursing home they said up until Tuesday that mum needed for physical needs as well as Alzheimer’s , do we hastily arrange a care home for her to go to or take the risk that half of the professional were wrong or right conversely and bring her home.
What happens if we put her in a care home that she doesn’t need or conversely bring her home only to find that she cant cope and we have to start the battle over again.
Up until Tuesday we were told she needs two people to get her in and out of bed and walk with her, that she won’t eat and spends the majority of her time asleep. As far as wishful thinking goes it would be wonderful to believe she has improved to such a degree but my head keeps questioning it all.
We have NO access to doctors as the staff are “too busy to talk to us” so I only have the voice of my mum from several years ago, way before dementia set in telling me the pains of hell I would suffer if I ever put her in to a home?
My mum has been in hospital for over a month after fracturing her hip falling of the edge of her bed. Before she went in we were asking professionals for help with her, at that time, undiagnosed , Alzheimer’s which they refused to give . Once she was admitted it very quickly became clear to them that she had these needs and over a period of a week she had a diagnosis of Mid Level Alzheimer’s.
Over the past month plus she has been in four wards and been moved to an isolation unit when she tested positive for asymptomatic COVID. Each ward and indeed person we speak to has a different interpretation of my mum’s needs. On Tuesday morning mum was due to transfer to a nursing home, only to be stopped by the positive test. Now the isolation unit is saying she is fine, no sign of confusion, no more apparent physical reasons to need nursing home care.I thought we had two weeks to get our heads round this change of heart but today I have been told she can be discharged next week So care needs to be organised.
Immediate dilemma , do we hold firm on the nursing home they said up until Tuesday that mum needed for physical needs as well as Alzheimer’s , do we hastily arrange a care home for her to go to or take the risk that half of the professional were wrong or right conversely and bring her home.
What happens if we put her in a care home that she doesn’t need or conversely bring her home only to find that she cant cope and we have to start the battle over again.
Up until Tuesday we were told she needs two people to get her in and out of bed and walk with her, that she won’t eat and spends the majority of her time asleep. As far as wishful thinking goes it would be wonderful to believe she has improved to such a degree but my head keeps questioning it all.
We have NO access to doctors as the staff are “too busy to talk to us” so I only have the voice of my mum from several years ago, way before dementia set in telling me the pains of hell I would suffer if I ever put her in to a home?