I have been thinking about triggers. We cannot do much about the unexpected, but what coping strategies have people found helpful on known ones.
My husband died on our great granddaughters birthday.
For three birthdays running there has been something, she was diagnosed with cancer, next one still on aggressive chemo and very ill, now this year. A beloved great grandfather.
I have put this on this thread rather on my own because it feels it is part of how we have to find a way to overlay sad memories with the positive ones.
I wonder if people have found that looking at photos and actively putting oneself back to the sights the smells and atmosphere of the happy event helps.
As Anna says there is no profit in Why Me the answer is always WHY NOT.
We can do all the right things and still random rules.
My husband died on our great granddaughters birthday.
For three birthdays running there has been something, she was diagnosed with cancer, next one still on aggressive chemo and very ill, now this year. A beloved great grandfather.
I have put this on this thread rather on my own because it feels it is part of how we have to find a way to overlay sad memories with the positive ones.
I wonder if people have found that looking at photos and actively putting oneself back to the sights the smells and atmosphere of the happy event helps.
As Anna says there is no profit in Why Me the answer is always WHY NOT.
We can do all the right things and still random rules.