I feel so grateful that there are so many people shining my path forward! You are all a huge blessing.
just with a bit of skim reading and I feel the presence of the thousands of individual experiences providing confirmation to question or answer to suspicions around behaviour and so much encouragement and support.
thank you all.
my mom...who I have never gotten on with since she had me at 17 and rejected me swiftly by giving me away to another family member....was diagnosed with dementia this year. She lost her beloved daughter in 2014 from a stroke and I felt so sorry for her then excusing her behaviour because of the unexpected death. But in fact I see now she was in early stages of dementia that went undiagnosed even then. She kept it hidden for these years until early this year when she cut off communication. She retired to Crete decades ago. I started to visit her more after my sister’s death but it caused her so much anger and distress I stayed away. Phone calls were short and acrimonious. Barely a hello and i would get the constant yelling to go to confession, talk to a priest and confess my sins...slam goes the phone. At least i thought she was alive and well! Fast forward to July this year when she disconnected her phone and i landed up calling the police to find her ...eventually talking to her doctors to hear she has dementia...and now finding myself running ragged east west on numerous flights to figure out what next. This last visit I took her car keys after seeing the battered car which was in my name...which the cops had removed the number plates to stop her driving....so she switched off her mobile to retaliate.
She was so cunning and so unpleasant during this last visit, i started to think the diagnosis wrong but i see now after reading that its the personality trying to protect itself and keep itself intact as best it can. Of course she insists she is able to take care of herself and wont hear of going into a care home. She is borderline capable but I think its a matter of weeks now when she wont be.
The town police and nearly every official know of her. There were about to lock her up in a mental hospital when I arrived. I had such an argument with the police over this they arrested me ....but swiftly dropped charges. Yes....i can sue...but its a small town and i figure i need their help so better forget and forgive their stupidity.
They now know she isn't psychologically mad...just physiologically demented. Its an illness. And I insist on her human rights.
i already have identified after three weeks that I wont cope. Between the attitude of the small mindedn normals and my mothers needs...I am rolling multiple bounders uphill. I dont want to live there permanently. I wont survive. And I cannot take her away because everywhere else is three times the cost of care. I am investigating homes in area.
to be continued...!
just with a bit of skim reading and I feel the presence of the thousands of individual experiences providing confirmation to question or answer to suspicions around behaviour and so much encouragement and support.
thank you all.
my mom...who I have never gotten on with since she had me at 17 and rejected me swiftly by giving me away to another family member....was diagnosed with dementia this year. She lost her beloved daughter in 2014 from a stroke and I felt so sorry for her then excusing her behaviour because of the unexpected death. But in fact I see now she was in early stages of dementia that went undiagnosed even then. She kept it hidden for these years until early this year when she cut off communication. She retired to Crete decades ago. I started to visit her more after my sister’s death but it caused her so much anger and distress I stayed away. Phone calls were short and acrimonious. Barely a hello and i would get the constant yelling to go to confession, talk to a priest and confess my sins...slam goes the phone. At least i thought she was alive and well! Fast forward to July this year when she disconnected her phone and i landed up calling the police to find her ...eventually talking to her doctors to hear she has dementia...and now finding myself running ragged east west on numerous flights to figure out what next. This last visit I took her car keys after seeing the battered car which was in my name...which the cops had removed the number plates to stop her driving....so she switched off her mobile to retaliate.
She was so cunning and so unpleasant during this last visit, i started to think the diagnosis wrong but i see now after reading that its the personality trying to protect itself and keep itself intact as best it can. Of course she insists she is able to take care of herself and wont hear of going into a care home. She is borderline capable but I think its a matter of weeks now when she wont be.
The town police and nearly every official know of her. There were about to lock her up in a mental hospital when I arrived. I had such an argument with the police over this they arrested me ....but swiftly dropped charges. Yes....i can sue...but its a small town and i figure i need their help so better forget and forgive their stupidity.
They now know she isn't psychologically mad...just physiologically demented. Its an illness. And I insist on her human rights.
i already have identified after three weeks that I wont cope. Between the attitude of the small mindedn normals and my mothers needs...I am rolling multiple bounders uphill. I dont want to live there permanently. I wont survive. And I cannot take her away because everywhere else is three times the cost of care. I am investigating homes in area.
to be continued...!