I've posted before about my lovely mum, I live in the US and Mum's in England.
I was in the UK from last October to the end of March and sat with mum everyday. When I first arrived the Dr.told me mum was at end of life and had meds in place so she would be as comfortable as possible, well mum pulled through and started eating a little...she is on thickened liquids.
Mum has not recognized me for years...I know she did a few times though when I sat with her..she's bedridden, incontinent, has to be fed etc.
Yesterday I heard from the head nurse mum is quite unwell, her oxygen is low and is on antibiotics as the Dr thinks she has another chest infection.
She is barely eating and they can only get her to drink a few sips of liquid.
They have her on meds to keep her comfortable and help with pain.
I asked the nurse if I should come over right now and she said it's so hard to tell, I know they can't say how long mum has.
The Dr is supposed to be calling me but not heard from her and when I call the Dr's office she's not been there.
I took months off from my job here and my boss was understanding but I can't take that amount of time off again.
I don't know what to do, if I was told yes, mum is not going to pull through this time, I'd be on the next plane.
I feel terrible, I'm so far away.
The nurse told me mum is being checked on every 30 minutes and they try to get her to drink.
I can't bear to think of mum all alone when she passes away.
I just don't know what to do.
I was in the UK from last October to the end of March and sat with mum everyday. When I first arrived the Dr.told me mum was at end of life and had meds in place so she would be as comfortable as possible, well mum pulled through and started eating a little...she is on thickened liquids.
Mum has not recognized me for years...I know she did a few times though when I sat with her..she's bedridden, incontinent, has to be fed etc.
Yesterday I heard from the head nurse mum is quite unwell, her oxygen is low and is on antibiotics as the Dr thinks she has another chest infection.
She is barely eating and they can only get her to drink a few sips of liquid.
They have her on meds to keep her comfortable and help with pain.
I asked the nurse if I should come over right now and she said it's so hard to tell, I know they can't say how long mum has.
The Dr is supposed to be calling me but not heard from her and when I call the Dr's office she's not been there.
I took months off from my job here and my boss was understanding but I can't take that amount of time off again.
I don't know what to do, if I was told yes, mum is not going to pull through this time, I'd be on the next plane.
I feel terrible, I'm so far away.
The nurse told me mum is being checked on every 30 minutes and they try to get her to drink.
I can't bear to think of mum all alone when she passes away.
I just don't know what to do.