Sorry if I wasn't very clear above. These small extras are fine but as a "lifestyle" fee they want £400/month from my mum on top of CHC full funding for being a "better environment" than the average home?!
But as I asked earlier is CHC a blank cheque, if the LA or CCG have a rate they pay and you want somewhere over and above that rate do they have to fund it?
If I go on holiday and stay in a 3 star hotel but you choose a five star hotel should we pay the same because we're in the same resort?
If everyone else in the same county gets X amount of money for care e it LA or CHC funded can you choose a more expensive option and expect to get it at the lower rate or expect the taxpayer to give you more money that they give to the rest of the public?
I think it would be more honest if the home simply said (as many already do) we don't accept people who are paid for fro the public purse, be it LA funded or CHC.
So many people on here post about the injustice of self funders paying more than the LA/CHC rate and generally people agree with them, if the home won't take the public funded rate (be it LA or CHC) without a top up maybe they should just say that outright and ask you to move her, using explanations about it being a "lifestyle" is just saying they won't take the CHC rate.
Sorry to be so negative but if you want to be in a home over budget it's a top up or a move.
There are a million reasons why this shouldn't be the case and I'm totally sympathetic to your problem but some (like the CCG) see this as you asking for a bigger slice of the cake than everyone else gets and money is tight.
The care home are very much the third party in this, they have a rate, the CCG have a rate and they can't agree on what that rate is then the home have 2 choices, either drop their rate (and why should they do that, they may well have a waiting list) or serve you notice.
Rather than argue with the home who I'd rather be on side with I'd be asking the CCG where they propose to move her to and how they can justify the move after all it's them that's refusing to fund, the home has the facilities whether you're able to use them or not.
As I say, sorry if that sounds unsympathetic but focusing on the home is targeting the people you need to be on side with, they can make a case for your mum staying there as well as you can so picking on them is "friendly fire" you're shooting at your allies.
K