Hi, I know I'm not the only wife living with a husband who has vascular dementia, so I know I'm not alone.
I have tried but I am getting so lost.
All the nurses, doctors etc tell me there is nothing that can be done when it comes to my husbands dementia.
I wanted a second scan to see if he had any other strokes no matter how small like the first one that caused his condition, but no.
No medication nothing, get on with it.
In the end I just list I just asked if they wanted me to shove him in a cupboard and forget about him, that's how they made me feel.
He has attacked me, broke my nose, black eyes bruised cheek bones, the police took him away and it was me who felt bad. He was charged with assault, but this was before they gave us a definite diagnosis.
I searched fir him and found him. I brought him home and persuaded everyone concerned that something was wrong and to give him a second chance. We knew he was acting out of character but the doctors brushed it off even then.
That was 5yrs ago, it took me nearly 2yrs before they would do anything, it's so wrong.
I don't want to be a victim and I am not going to be a villain.
He is 62 & had to stop smoking last year when he had fluid drained from his lung, I buy the lowest alcoholic lager so he can have some pleasure but all it does is make him moody and won't eat.
I I refuse to get any, which is only 12 cans of 2% lager he gets so angry.
I get blamed for everything, it was me who caused it, then another day he is fine.
I guess I just want to get it off my chest, and im sorry there are more of you out there with far worse than I am dealing with.
There is only him, my mum and me, thanks for listening
I have tried but I am getting so lost.
All the nurses, doctors etc tell me there is nothing that can be done when it comes to my husbands dementia.
I wanted a second scan to see if he had any other strokes no matter how small like the first one that caused his condition, but no.
No medication nothing, get on with it.
In the end I just list I just asked if they wanted me to shove him in a cupboard and forget about him, that's how they made me feel.
He has attacked me, broke my nose, black eyes bruised cheek bones, the police took him away and it was me who felt bad. He was charged with assault, but this was before they gave us a definite diagnosis.
I searched fir him and found him. I brought him home and persuaded everyone concerned that something was wrong and to give him a second chance. We knew he was acting out of character but the doctors brushed it off even then.
That was 5yrs ago, it took me nearly 2yrs before they would do anything, it's so wrong.
I don't want to be a victim and I am not going to be a villain.
He is 62 & had to stop smoking last year when he had fluid drained from his lung, I buy the lowest alcoholic lager so he can have some pleasure but all it does is make him moody and won't eat.
I I refuse to get any, which is only 12 cans of 2% lager he gets so angry.
I get blamed for everything, it was me who caused it, then another day he is fine.
I guess I just want to get it off my chest, and im sorry there are more of you out there with far worse than I am dealing with.
There is only him, my mum and me, thanks for listening
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