My mother is 86, vascular dementia, 3 care visits a day to her sheltered accommodation. She's lived there for 8 years well before this developed, and is happy there and the staff are very good. But they have concerns that she needs more care as she is wandering around at night (no sense of day or night) and they fear she'll go out at night in the dark, and also she can't remember how to make her own food or drink.
I've been researching residential care homes and am visiting a recommended one next week. They say if I like it, they can come and assess my mother and take it from there. BUT - how do others on here raise the subject with their parent? She will see no reason to move, even if I say people are concerned she might go out at night in danger - she will just look at me vaguely, or else promise not to - or deny she ever does, etc etc.
What do I say if a lady from the care home does come to visit her for an assessment? How do I introduce her?
I've read that some people say it is just temporary - a short stay at this new place while your other place is being decorated or something. That seems underhand but are lies acceptable in these cases?
I have applied for Power of Attorney Health, so I will be able to get her into a home without her agreement but obviously I don't want her to go dragging and screaming.
I've been researching residential care homes and am visiting a recommended one next week. They say if I like it, they can come and assess my mother and take it from there. BUT - how do others on here raise the subject with their parent? She will see no reason to move, even if I say people are concerned she might go out at night in danger - she will just look at me vaguely, or else promise not to - or deny she ever does, etc etc.
What do I say if a lady from the care home does come to visit her for an assessment? How do I introduce her?
I've read that some people say it is just temporary - a short stay at this new place while your other place is being decorated or something. That seems underhand but are lies acceptable in these cases?
I have applied for Power of Attorney Health, so I will be able to get her into a home without her agreement but obviously I don't want her to go dragging and screaming.