Hi all
Have been 'lurking' for a while & am now finding the courage to write / tell what's happening with my mum.
Mum is 76, lost dad 3 years ago & lives on her own 10 minutes from me with her dog ( the dog is a big part of mums life!)
I would say the last 6 months I have noticed a the changes with mum, depression, isolation, not talking on the phone, no conversation about stuff she used to enjoy. She is an ex carer herself & has always said '' if I get like that,you won't have to worry about me''
Mum is one of 8 siblings, her older sister is in late stages of Alzheimer's, the rest have died from strokes / hear disease / old age.
Its now her memory loss which is really starting to show, took her for a blood test only this morning, my brother called her this eve & she couldn't remember it.
We have tried talking to mum, but she becomes aggressive and refuses to acknowledge anything is wrong, myself &my husband are doing all we can as we only live a short distance away
I am exhausted as most conversations with mum end up in a row. My wonderful husband does so much for her, garden, takes her shopping, but he lost his mum 3 months ago & is trying to grieve, but its like my mum is taking all our energy.
My brother is a nurse and is coming to see mum this week to ' have a chat' - he wants me to be there but if I'm being totally honest, I don't want to be, I want him to take more responsibility.
& I fell so utterly selfish for saying that...
I read all the posts on here & I know our journey is just beginning, its heartbreaking this illness. My best friends dad has cancer & I almost envy her the tangible aspects of dealing with cancer, Hosp visits, tests etc, something to actually do.
Thank you for reading & letting me vent a little
Sas x
Have been 'lurking' for a while & am now finding the courage to write / tell what's happening with my mum.
Mum is 76, lost dad 3 years ago & lives on her own 10 minutes from me with her dog ( the dog is a big part of mums life!)
I would say the last 6 months I have noticed a the changes with mum, depression, isolation, not talking on the phone, no conversation about stuff she used to enjoy. She is an ex carer herself & has always said '' if I get like that,you won't have to worry about me''
Mum is one of 8 siblings, her older sister is in late stages of Alzheimer's, the rest have died from strokes / hear disease / old age.
Its now her memory loss which is really starting to show, took her for a blood test only this morning, my brother called her this eve & she couldn't remember it.
We have tried talking to mum, but she becomes aggressive and refuses to acknowledge anything is wrong, myself &my husband are doing all we can as we only live a short distance away
I am exhausted as most conversations with mum end up in a row. My wonderful husband does so much for her, garden, takes her shopping, but he lost his mum 3 months ago & is trying to grieve, but its like my mum is taking all our energy.
My brother is a nurse and is coming to see mum this week to ' have a chat' - he wants me to be there but if I'm being totally honest, I don't want to be, I want him to take more responsibility.
& I fell so utterly selfish for saying that...
I read all the posts on here & I know our journey is just beginning, its heartbreaking this illness. My best friends dad has cancer & I almost envy her the tangible aspects of dealing with cancer, Hosp visits, tests etc, something to actually do.
Thank you for reading & letting me vent a little
Sas x