I've just been to lunch with my friend and to be honest after looking forward to it I hate to say it but I couldn't wait to come home.
I look after my dad with Alzheimers. He has lived with myself and my husband now for over 2 years. We moved him from his home 150 miles away so we could look after him and try and save him from having to go into care. It's hard......I don't have to tell you as you're all going through it as well. One of the things that I find hardest is that I'm an only child, lost my mum when I was 8, have no relatives living any where near me and as I am also relatively new to the area have not many friends here either. I feel lonely and overwhelmed by the enormity of looking after someone with this awful disease.
Dad has gone to his luncheon club today so I was looking forward to going for lunch with my friend. I know this subject has come up before but I'm frustrated by the fact that she doesn't seem to be at all interested in what things are like in my life. I don't want to be an Alzheimers bore but I can't help but feel that as a friend she should surely be able to recognise that I could do with some support and a shoulder to lean on but I get nothing. When I try and bring the subject up she just glazes over or becomes distracted by one of her children. Whilst with her today I got a call from the club that dad had gone to which sent me into a mild panic. Whilst I was talking to them she made a phone call to her husband to talk about a party they are going to at the weekend (how nice) and when I got off the phone she didn't even ask if everything was ok. I'm so disappointed.
Maybe I am a bore but at this moment in time my life is completely taken up by this awful, unpredictable, cruel disease. I've forgotten what it's like to spend my weekends at parties or going out for dinners and now I'm starting to feel like there is no point in spending time with other people as they just don't understand how things are for us.
It's just another thing that Alzheimers throws your way.
Sorry for being so gloomy.
Take care all xx
I look after my dad with Alzheimers. He has lived with myself and my husband now for over 2 years. We moved him from his home 150 miles away so we could look after him and try and save him from having to go into care. It's hard......I don't have to tell you as you're all going through it as well. One of the things that I find hardest is that I'm an only child, lost my mum when I was 8, have no relatives living any where near me and as I am also relatively new to the area have not many friends here either. I feel lonely and overwhelmed by the enormity of looking after someone with this awful disease.
Dad has gone to his luncheon club today so I was looking forward to going for lunch with my friend. I know this subject has come up before but I'm frustrated by the fact that she doesn't seem to be at all interested in what things are like in my life. I don't want to be an Alzheimers bore but I can't help but feel that as a friend she should surely be able to recognise that I could do with some support and a shoulder to lean on but I get nothing. When I try and bring the subject up she just glazes over or becomes distracted by one of her children. Whilst with her today I got a call from the club that dad had gone to which sent me into a mild panic. Whilst I was talking to them she made a phone call to her husband to talk about a party they are going to at the weekend (how nice) and when I got off the phone she didn't even ask if everything was ok. I'm so disappointed.
Maybe I am a bore but at this moment in time my life is completely taken up by this awful, unpredictable, cruel disease. I've forgotten what it's like to spend my weekends at parties or going out for dinners and now I'm starting to feel like there is no point in spending time with other people as they just don't understand how things are for us.
It's just another thing that Alzheimers throws your way.
Sorry for being so gloomy.
Take care all xx