I usually say, well she's OK, safe and looked after well.
What I really want to say is.....each time I go a little bit more of her is missing.....what kind of life does she have, sitting in a lounge, moving to the table, moving back to bed......not knowing what day/time it is.......it's not really my Mum there now it's someone else.......she doesn't even know it's Christmas and she used to love this time of year.
You can't really tell them this as mostly they have no idea of the grief you feel and it is grief already.....
Sad times.
What I really want to say is.....each time I go a little bit more of her is missing.....what kind of life does she have, sitting in a lounge, moving to the table, moving back to bed......not knowing what day/time it is.......it's not really my Mum there now it's someone else.......she doesn't even know it's Christmas and she used to love this time of year.
You can't really tell them this as mostly they have no idea of the grief you feel and it is grief already.....
Sad times.