Thank you MaNaAk: for all your worthy advice here. I've been looking at both to rent and/or to buy! But somewhere cheaper. I may have to rent first just to get a feel for the area, as I do not want to stop in the area where I live now plus I wouldn't be able to afford to. My sibling tells me to get my feelers out and start looking for somewhere to live after an intense conversation with her yesterday. But I have as little as possible to do with her. She sent me a manipulating nasty message a few weeks ago and it has been playing on my mind. (The nasty person) that she is.
I haven't posted on here for a while. I'm just trying to deal with everything on my own but it has been getting me down as I have been left to deal with everything previously: including mum's care, her funeral, registering mum's death and so on. Take care & thank you for your support. x
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@Roman223,
I really feel for you and I can imagine what that conversation was like. I was told by my siblings that I was narcissistic, selfish, stubborn, spoilt etc. I was even accused of trying to halt probate by tearing dad's certificate and his will. The phone calls that I had from my youngest brother proved him to be a manipulative bully and he would start getting me to agree with one thing and then twisting it around to confuse me and saying but you said this or you said that and I believe he practiced this with his partner. I remember
@love.dad.but.. saying you have to stop those phone calls chipping away at your confidence. Do you have a mobile phone as well as a landline? If your sister phones on one line and another phone call comes on the other then you have to hang up on her whether she likes it or not. This happened to me twice the first time it was a friend inviting me out for coffee because she was worried about me. The second time it was an estate agent and my idiot brother said they'll phone back! I should have put the phone down on him and spoken to the estate agent!
The trouble with me was that I had lived in the family home for nearly forty years. I was running part of my business from that house and I had my pet tortoises. I was told by my brothers that I would have to teach all my Piano and Violin pupils from my local music shop where I also worked and that I would have to give the tortoises away to an animal sanctuary (they had been in the for seventy years!). This only upset me even more and me less likely to want to talk to them. However I got through it and you will too.
MaNaAk