I live next door to my 90 year old neighbor for whom I have known for the last 25 years and are concerned for her welfare.
We live in a semi-detactched house and she lives on her own and has no careers except with an emergency button device in her house and around her neck.
Over the last 18 months she has been complaining about ‘noises’ coming from our house, especially in the early hours of the morning and on and off during the day. She has described these noises as being ‘loud muffled voices’ and a ‘buzzing noise’, and is so loud she puts cotton wool in her ears and it has kept her awake.
We can say for certain that there is no noises of that sort coming from our house.
However over the last 8 months she has become very confrontational and her personality has drastically changed from what we’ve know both her and her late husbands to be like.
It started about 3 years ago now with unprovoked verbal comments about things that happened in the past between my parents, but took no noitce of them.
But lately it has been her making angry acccusations that I have been making a noise at 5am in the morning, for which she describes as a ‘party next door’ and a ‘loud TV on next door bedroom’, no TV in the next door bedroom and definitely no party!
Despite our explainations and denials that we aren’t making any noise she continues with the same allegations unabated.
We have on multiple occasions been round to see her to talk about this and it’s like going round in circles, I.e. doesn’t no longer believe a word I or my mum say.
We have been in touch with her cousin and wife but they defend her and saying it’s us making the noise when we can catagoically say it’s not.
The opposite neighbor to her has also threatened me verbally and threatened me with court action.
Its come to the point we’re its effecting me and my mums life and adding stress everytime we are in the garden to if she comes out and starts with the ‘noise’ accusations again. To the point where mums gone to the caravan to be away from it all. I am 25 and never had to deal with anything like this before and am unsure what to do about it.
I am writing on here to ask for some advice on what to do next? Should I contact Social Services for their help? and should I contact the local police?
How should I approach someone with suspected dementia and is behaving in an increasingly difficult manor?
Should I video record her behaviour and the threatening next door neighbour just in case her relatives do go through with court action?
Thanks
We live in a semi-detactched house and she lives on her own and has no careers except with an emergency button device in her house and around her neck.
Over the last 18 months she has been complaining about ‘noises’ coming from our house, especially in the early hours of the morning and on and off during the day. She has described these noises as being ‘loud muffled voices’ and a ‘buzzing noise’, and is so loud she puts cotton wool in her ears and it has kept her awake.
We can say for certain that there is no noises of that sort coming from our house.
However over the last 8 months she has become very confrontational and her personality has drastically changed from what we’ve know both her and her late husbands to be like.
It started about 3 years ago now with unprovoked verbal comments about things that happened in the past between my parents, but took no noitce of them.
But lately it has been her making angry acccusations that I have been making a noise at 5am in the morning, for which she describes as a ‘party next door’ and a ‘loud TV on next door bedroom’, no TV in the next door bedroom and definitely no party!
Despite our explainations and denials that we aren’t making any noise she continues with the same allegations unabated.
We have on multiple occasions been round to see her to talk about this and it’s like going round in circles, I.e. doesn’t no longer believe a word I or my mum say.
We have been in touch with her cousin and wife but they defend her and saying it’s us making the noise when we can catagoically say it’s not.
The opposite neighbor to her has also threatened me verbally and threatened me with court action.
Its come to the point we’re its effecting me and my mums life and adding stress everytime we are in the garden to if she comes out and starts with the ‘noise’ accusations again. To the point where mums gone to the caravan to be away from it all. I am 25 and never had to deal with anything like this before and am unsure what to do about it.
I am writing on here to ask for some advice on what to do next? Should I contact Social Services for their help? and should I contact the local police?
How should I approach someone with suspected dementia and is behaving in an increasingly difficult manor?
Should I video record her behaviour and the threatening next door neighbour just in case her relatives do go through with court action?
Thanks
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