thank you, he has come down and calmed down but sometimes there is no excuse for sitting on ones backside and leaving someone else to do it all.
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its ok you were ill. im ok, just seem to be struggling a bit at the moment. not sure why, probably just need some me time to do what i want.
Jennifer I hope you have a better week. Charlie worries me if I tell him what we're going to do he wants to help and hurries me even though he's so slow..I do like that he loves washing the dishes . I found out today he's not showering only washing up. So I may see if I can help him and he will put back on his dirty shirt and pants so will be taking them to Landry room at bedtime
Just wanted to say a few words but wrote a story keeping all in my thoughts
Just wanted to say a few words but wrote a story keeping all in my thoughts
sometimes, its just constant. i take his dirty clothes out of his room at night time otherwise he would forget. i put a towel on his chest of drawers to remind him he needs a wash when he hasnt been showered the night before. that works with the occasional slip-up. its just not being able to relax that gets to me sometimes. i have to plan what i do because too much is too painful so plan jobs so i only have a couple each day plus the basics. with family as well, everyone wants a piece of you that you end up with nothing for yourself.
I'm learning to not expect to much from him his attention span is limited and short term memory about gone. We do have hard and good days I hope you can rest and enjoy some time for yourself. Charlie is with me all day everyday I read or follow this forum while he watches TV thank you for being here for me
good morning. hes had to get up for the diabetic review coming here. never happy getting up early. probably be sleeping some of the day afterwards. at least its sunny.
I hope today will be better for you @jennifer1967
You do sound tired and getting towards the end of your patience. It`s sad how it has to come to this and how carers have to accept this is how it is.
Have you asked for more support from the services?
You do sound tired and getting towards the end of your patience. It`s sad how it has to come to this and how carers have to accept this is how it is.
Have you asked for more support from the services?
yes but he has capacity and has told them no. good old capacity. they cant do anything. he can still manage a lot too, so i should be grateful. he just has times when hes more vague and demanding. probably me being a bit sensitive.
hes got the diabetic nurse coming out for his annual review so ive had to get him up earlier. then he will probably doze for the rest of the day.
thats the diabetic nurse done. passed with flying colours although has a drop in bp when stood up so has to be careful. she was talking about educating him in what he should be eating. he would totally ignore it and not sure how much he would remember any way.
she said do you remember last years review? may need a bit of dementia training perhaps. blood test for him tomorrow.
they have phoned me twice and he was actually on 2 lists for blood taking with 2 different people to visit!
she said do you remember last years review? may need a bit of dementia training perhaps. blood test for him tomorrow.
they have phoned me twice and he was actually on 2 lists for blood taking with 2 different people to visit!
Hope you don't mind me saying this @jennifer1967 but sounds like the nurse has forgotten that your husband has dementia????? Glad the rest of the review was okay.
MaNaAk
I remember those days, I even had to dodge on occasion... it was like mum was continuously adding to my list of things to do, frustrating didn't even cover it. So sorry you're experiencing a similar thing especially with all the aches, pains and tiredness. Hope stuff gets a little bit better soonish 💚
Pain is the worst. Wanna get these jobs done quickly so I can get off my feet but you are being ‘helped’ …….😔
thats how i do it. he just sometimes gets in the way so im on my feet too long
i know i couldnt believe it either. she was very nice. she gave him a sample bottle to take to the toilet. the neck of the bottle are tiny so how he was supposed to use it, i dont know. he did but difficult. i need to be more prepared next year.
