My mother (87) has Alzheimer's and is being cared for at her home. My father cared for her until he died in 2022, and told us that at some point he knew my mum would have to go into a care home. My brother (53, single) has moved back to her home to care for her, but he also works full time. We both have LPA over her covering her health and finances.
I'm worried mostly about my brother. I live too far away to provide practical help, but my mum's incontinence is getting severe. She managed to step in her faeces yesterday and tread it all the way around the house. (Silver lining: she is fairly mobile at home..) She also falls over, and has badly scalded herself. She's diabetic (type 2). She needs posters around the house to remind her not to put certain things in the microwave, use the hob, etc etc. She has one paid carer come in once a week but I think she gets asked to do the hoovering! (facepalm)
He's mentioned taking early retirement to look after her. I don't think he should, and I wish he'd get more professionals involved in her care. I'm not convinced he's able to stop her hurting herself accidentally, or to get her the right medical care when she does.
Does anyone have any suggestions for us going forward? I think it is more a case of persuading him that she'd be better off with real help, but maybe I'm blind to alternatives. I also don't want it to happen because she's hurt herself too badly.
I'm worried mostly about my brother. I live too far away to provide practical help, but my mum's incontinence is getting severe. She managed to step in her faeces yesterday and tread it all the way around the house. (Silver lining: she is fairly mobile at home..) She also falls over, and has badly scalded herself. She's diabetic (type 2). She needs posters around the house to remind her not to put certain things in the microwave, use the hob, etc etc. She has one paid carer come in once a week but I think she gets asked to do the hoovering! (facepalm)
He's mentioned taking early retirement to look after her. I don't think he should, and I wish he'd get more professionals involved in her care. I'm not convinced he's able to stop her hurting herself accidentally, or to get her the right medical care when she does.
Does anyone have any suggestions for us going forward? I think it is more a case of persuading him that she'd be better off with real help, but maybe I'm blind to alternatives. I also don't want it to happen because she's hurt herself too badly.