Hi all, I’m struggling to support my sister who cares for my difficult and abusive mother. My sister is divorced, her herself been abused by several partners and has mild learning difficulties and does a great job but struggles with mums behaviour as she has low self esteem.
Mum pays her a reasonable amount each month and also pays all thr house bills and food. My mother has always been difficult and I’ve spoken to her gp on several occasions but she’s yet to get any diagnosis. Her mental health has always been poor though.
A friend of mine who used to be an admiralty nurse says its highly likely my mum has some dementia altho not severe.
They argue alot which makes things v difficult at times. I have full power of attorney and manage mums financial affairs. She has more support than many people ever do.
My mum struggles with poor eye sight and mobility. She simply won’t recognise that my sister would like to go home for a break now and again and wants to go with her. She also can’t use stairs and my sisters bathroom is upstairs. These discussions result in frequent arguments and I’m struggling to cope with the stress as I have chronic pain.
I understand that my sister is entitled to 4 weeks paid holiday a year but she hardly gets anywhere near that in terms of time away. Mum refuses to go into a care home for respite either.
I’m tempted to involve social services and get a proper assessment but that will inflame things too. Any suggestions or advice would be much appreciated.
Mum pays her a reasonable amount each month and also pays all thr house bills and food. My mother has always been difficult and I’ve spoken to her gp on several occasions but she’s yet to get any diagnosis. Her mental health has always been poor though.
A friend of mine who used to be an admiralty nurse says its highly likely my mum has some dementia altho not severe.
They argue alot which makes things v difficult at times. I have full power of attorney and manage mums financial affairs. She has more support than many people ever do.
My mum struggles with poor eye sight and mobility. She simply won’t recognise that my sister would like to go home for a break now and again and wants to go with her. She also can’t use stairs and my sisters bathroom is upstairs. These discussions result in frequent arguments and I’m struggling to cope with the stress as I have chronic pain.
I understand that my sister is entitled to 4 weeks paid holiday a year but she hardly gets anywhere near that in terms of time away. Mum refuses to go into a care home for respite either.
I’m tempted to involve social services and get a proper assessment but that will inflame things too. Any suggestions or advice would be much appreciated.
