My mum lives by herself in her own home, she is declining bit by bit in terms of memory and cognition, but still getting about her village and attending church and social evenings independently with friends. I live 4.5 hours away, visit fortnightly for 3 days, look after her bills, online shopping, liaison with various agencies/doctors etc. She has two care visits a day. She's had the Alzheimers diagnosis for about a year, and medication for less. On balance she's doing okay, she's a bit lonely but insists she wants to stay in her area and not come to Iive with me.
Social services have suggested a live in carer. One of the care agencies is keen on this. I'm alarmed at the cost - £1500/week? Mum wants to consider it carefully and slowly. I worry about the vulnerable position it could put mum in with a stranger living in the house ...... so easy to go through drawers, bags etc for finances, property, care, company..... so many things get lost already. But it might be a relief for her? Her dementia means that she can be manipulated, even though she is quite feisty, and her state fluctuates. I feel this could only come between us. Am I resisting by preserving the status quo? Anthoughts/experiences/recommendations?
Any ideas, experiences
Social services have suggested a live in carer. One of the care agencies is keen on this. I'm alarmed at the cost - £1500/week? Mum wants to consider it carefully and slowly. I worry about the vulnerable position it could put mum in with a stranger living in the house ...... so easy to go through drawers, bags etc for finances, property, care, company..... so many things get lost already. But it might be a relief for her? Her dementia means that she can be manipulated, even though she is quite feisty, and her state fluctuates. I feel this could only come between us. Am I resisting by preserving the status quo? Anthoughts/experiences/recommendations?
Any ideas, experiences