Hi to everybody
Has anybody had experience of taking their relative out for the day and then getting them back to care home with no upset??
To explain my mum loves to go out we try to take her out on a saturday either to have a walk on seafront (still preety mobile) lunch at the garden centre or just back to our house to see the cat. I am begining to dread it as when I take her back she doesn't want to go in and then doesn't want me to leave just says why do you keep bringing me back to this place. and gets verbally aggressive to the staff who try to distract her whilst I leave, have tried getting my husband to take her in which sometimes works but not always, my 15 year old son took her back yesterday but had to be smuggled out of the side door as she was getting stroppy, although he doesn't mind I don't like letting him take her in as she swears at him.
Anyway CH thinks perhaps better if I don't take her out but I feel bad about it as she loves to go out and if just visiting find hard to find enough to talk about and she won't play games or do jigsaws, and we do just sit and talk when I go in the week.
Wondered if anyone had any tips on getting someone back without too much stress and tears (from me).
Has anybody had experience of taking their relative out for the day and then getting them back to care home with no upset??
To explain my mum loves to go out we try to take her out on a saturday either to have a walk on seafront (still preety mobile) lunch at the garden centre or just back to our house to see the cat. I am begining to dread it as when I take her back she doesn't want to go in and then doesn't want me to leave just says why do you keep bringing me back to this place. and gets verbally aggressive to the staff who try to distract her whilst I leave, have tried getting my husband to take her in which sometimes works but not always, my 15 year old son took her back yesterday but had to be smuggled out of the side door as she was getting stroppy, although he doesn't mind I don't like letting him take her in as she swears at him.
Anyway CH thinks perhaps better if I don't take her out but I feel bad about it as she loves to go out and if just visiting find hard to find enough to talk about and she won't play games or do jigsaws, and we do just sit and talk when I go in the week.
Wondered if anyone had any tips on getting someone back without too much stress and tears (from me).