Hello. This is my first post (sorry it’s long).
I have concerns about my 58 year old husband. He did go to the memory clinic about 15 months ago and this was followed by and MRI and was given the all clear.
However, I have continued to see changes in him. He has always worked in engineering but had a job change due to redundancy last year (having struggled to grasp the new role they offered him).
He has since taken a 50% pay cut, to work in a less demanding engineering role - but still struggles. He seems to have difficulty with numbers (he had to add one to a number a few days ago and after a struggle, had to use his phones calculator). It was a nightmare 2 days getting him through his induction. He does seem to have settled in now though, 6 months in.
There are so many subtle things. Mostly only I would notice (although our daughters also do). He likes routine more and more for one (walks on the same routes for example), happy to sit on the sofa and watch YouTube for hours (not something he would have done until the last couple of years), mostly he watches the same handful of people who do walks through particular towns.
My mum passed unexpectedly 3 months ago. He would usually be my rock but he felt quite empty (best I can explain). My dad stayed with us for about 3 weeks and although my husband doesn’t use his car for work (or anything much), he was absolutely obsessed and fixated on it being blocked in on the driveway in front of our other car and my dads car. He kept taking it out to leave at his parents near by and then bringing it back.
He struggles with planning and problem solving. He has always done diy and lots of decorating over the years. He struggled today with the instructions to mix wallpaper paste and I had to step in and do it.
I have to watch him with the injections for our diabetic dog (hubby usually does the injections). I asked him a few days ago if had given and he said he felt like he had but also like he hadn’t. We checked the nearly full sharps bin and there was a needle near the top, still with the insulin in,
He is a bit anxious if I’m not home and is getting quite clingy with me.
The best way that I can describe how he seems to me, is a bit vulnerable.
Although this sounds probably obvious, he also functions quite ‘normally’ and most wouldn’t think anything.
He thought a few weeks ago that his pants and top had been stolen from the drier in the shed. After having me look everywhere for them, I found them in his wardrobe (washed, dried and ironed, which he had done).
He thought today, just for a moment, that some rolls of wallpaper had been taken from his boot. He then quickly remembered that he’d already taken them to our daughters house.
I am starting to make allowances for him, without even realising.
There are so many examples but this just gives a few to explain the reason for my concerns. I am not sure if I should ask him if he will go back to the doctors. It was only just over a year ago though that he had the ok from an MRI. Any thoughts or similar experiences would be very welcome. Thank you.
