First time I’ve posted on here
My mum has dementia - always been a tricky quite controlling lady but seems to be worsening.
She is resistant to carers. Though does have someone come on and take her out for a few hours once a week.
My dad is young at heart and has a few hobbies which help him cope.
She can seem on some days completely lucid but then on other days not. She is prone to meltdowns and recently has been telling friends that she is going to pack my dads bags and kick him out.
He takes it all very graciously but she also accuses him of being a bully etc etc. he really isn’t.
I’m just wondering I suppose as she can care for herself on the most part- how long people go on caring for someone when the dementia party is quite abusive verbally?
She ‘behaves’ when other people are around and is sweet as pie to people.
Dad takes her along to all the clubs and engages with the support teams well and is doing a really good job but recently he is treading on egg shells trying to avoid meltdowns where she can go on for days sulking or verbally abusing him.
Do other people have similar situations? How long before someone goes into care because their spouse can’t cope with being tormented.
My mum has dementia - always been a tricky quite controlling lady but seems to be worsening.
She is resistant to carers. Though does have someone come on and take her out for a few hours once a week.
My dad is young at heart and has a few hobbies which help him cope.
She can seem on some days completely lucid but then on other days not. She is prone to meltdowns and recently has been telling friends that she is going to pack my dads bags and kick him out.
He takes it all very graciously but she also accuses him of being a bully etc etc. he really isn’t.
I’m just wondering I suppose as she can care for herself on the most part- how long people go on caring for someone when the dementia party is quite abusive verbally?
She ‘behaves’ when other people are around and is sweet as pie to people.
Dad takes her along to all the clubs and engages with the support teams well and is doing a really good job but recently he is treading on egg shells trying to avoid meltdowns where she can go on for days sulking or verbally abusing him.
Do other people have similar situations? How long before someone goes into care because their spouse can’t cope with being tormented.