Mum was fast tracked to a care home over two weeks ago. After a five week stay in hospital she was deteriorating due to not eating or drinking much and her dementia of course.
Although she was able to go to the toilet before hospital admission, was able to walk and able to feed herself she lost all these abilities due to being treated as bed bound in hospital.
I would visit her in hospital twice a day and assist in feeding her and she would eat, not as much as before but she did take the food.
I have a suspicion mum was tagged as end of life but lately she seems to have settled into her new place albeit she is in bed all the time.
For the first two weeks I made a real effort to engage with the care home staff but I have noticed that this has tapered off.
I get no updates on how mum is doing or really any communication from them about my mum at all.
I visit twice a day to help assist mum with eating.
There was no "sit down" meeting with staff or management when mum moved in and I've not had any formal discussions with them about mum's health. If someone is considered end of life then does that mean there would be no "care plan"?
Mum is still not eating when presented with meals and they explained they were happy to save meals until my visits but this regularly does not happen.
I asked if mum would be able to be taken out of bed and put in a chair sometimes and they said they always encourage that but later said they don't know if she has core stability to even sit in a chair (they hadn't even tried at that point).
A few days ago I arrived to find my mum's bed empty only to be told that she's in the dining room. She was there in the corner in a chair. Looking uncomfortable but at least out of bed but since then she's back in bed permanently.
It is beginning to feel that some of the nurses are perhaps not used to be questioned regularly by family members as maybe some of the other residents on mum's floor don't get family visits that often.
Whenever I ask them something it feels like I am interrupting them or bothering them but when I don't ask then I don't get told anything.
Any suggestions? Should I be asking for a review after a few weeks and a sit down meeting rather than a few stolen sentences stood at the reception desk?
Although she was able to go to the toilet before hospital admission, was able to walk and able to feed herself she lost all these abilities due to being treated as bed bound in hospital.
I would visit her in hospital twice a day and assist in feeding her and she would eat, not as much as before but she did take the food.
I have a suspicion mum was tagged as end of life but lately she seems to have settled into her new place albeit she is in bed all the time.
For the first two weeks I made a real effort to engage with the care home staff but I have noticed that this has tapered off.
I get no updates on how mum is doing or really any communication from them about my mum at all.
I visit twice a day to help assist mum with eating.
There was no "sit down" meeting with staff or management when mum moved in and I've not had any formal discussions with them about mum's health. If someone is considered end of life then does that mean there would be no "care plan"?
Mum is still not eating when presented with meals and they explained they were happy to save meals until my visits but this regularly does not happen.
I asked if mum would be able to be taken out of bed and put in a chair sometimes and they said they always encourage that but later said they don't know if she has core stability to even sit in a chair (they hadn't even tried at that point).
A few days ago I arrived to find my mum's bed empty only to be told that she's in the dining room. She was there in the corner in a chair. Looking uncomfortable but at least out of bed but since then she's back in bed permanently.
It is beginning to feel that some of the nurses are perhaps not used to be questioned regularly by family members as maybe some of the other residents on mum's floor don't get family visits that often.
Whenever I ask them something it feels like I am interrupting them or bothering them but when I don't ask then I don't get told anything.
Any suggestions? Should I be asking for a review after a few weeks and a sit down meeting rather than a few stolen sentences stood at the reception desk?