Many thanks for that - it's reassuring that that's what they usually want. Because they keep asking us over and over again about whether we own our house, how much it is worth, how much my husband's private pensions are and we have flatly refused to disclose any information to them, they have become quite aggressive and sometimes appear here with no prior warning or appointment. Even to get an appointment at the local Memory Clinic, they tried to insist we told them how much the house was worth - can't really see how that helps them diagnose Alzheimer's myself. I am registered partially sighted and crippled with arthritis in my spine but I manage to look after my husband somehow. No one has ever come here in years and years to see if I am safe cooking every day for two people. Presumably, blind and part sighted people are of less value than those with Alzheimers and it doesn't matter if I burn the house down, only if he does! We have both become too frightened to answer our telephone or our doorbell and neither of us can sleep. I am very scared they are going to snatch him for the money, and what's more to the point, he is terrified they are going to remove him from his home. If they insist on putting my husband in a home, I have not enough to maintain my current address and would become homeless. No body it seems, cares about a carer.
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@Foundagoodbooktolivein
Yes, you are right. The Local Authority Adult Social Services probably want to visit you both in your home to see if you are coping.
You have said that you have some health problems. If your OH has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's then I'm sure you'll appreciate that however he is at present will not likely remain the same, and his condition will deteriorate. He will become harder to look after. If you can cope on your own, then that's fine, but there may come a time when you may find it gradually more and more difficult to look after him. People with Alzheimer's can develop challenging behaviours. Some wander off during the day or night. Some may develop balance difficulties and become liable to fall. Some develop difficulties with perception and/or co-ordination. I have to feed my OH her food and drink because she can't handle cutlery or hold drinks steady. Some people develop toilet problems and incontinence, which is hard to deal with.
What I'm saying is, that there may come a time when you need outside carers to help you look after your OH or the house or garden. If your OH needed carers to help him. or you wanted them to relieve you, then the care providing company would charge fees for what they're asked to do.
If the LA Adult Social Services are or become involved then they would want to carry out a means test to see who should pay for the care. The house and it's value is likely to be disregarded as you have a right to live there. If you choose not to have a means test, and you are within your rights to not have a means test, then it will be assumed that your OH has assets in excess of £23,250 and that he will have to pay for his own care needs.
If your OH became incontinent, you can get adult nappies, bed covers, etc free by prescription from the Incontinence Nurse, but to get her involved you need a referral from either the GP or the Adult Social Services. They can also help with other items for free, subject to an assessment of need - such as grab handles or hand rails, or walking frame.
I hope that may assist and I'm sorry if I'm telling you things you already know.
You do not have to get the Adult Social Services involved if you don't want to.
Best wishes