Hello, please could I have some advice? I feel like I am beginning to struggle to cope
I lost my dad to skin cancer, I then lost my partner to lymphoma, and just over a year ago I lost my childhood dog, and lost my nana to lung cancer. Last month I also lost my auntie to bone cancer. I live with my mum and we went straight from losing my nana and being her full time carer to caring for my grandad. My mum is an alcoholic, she uses this to cope. But I’m 27 with all of this trauma and grief and now I’m a parent to mum too. I just need some help.
When we lost my nana, naturally now my grandad has shot down hill.
He stays with us during the day and goes home to sleep.
His hands are starting to lock and his speech is getting really bad. He is choking a lot and won’t eat solid foods. He can’t turn his head anymore and can’t walk well, if at all.
He is still so aware he is losing his memory, and gets extremely emotional, but he had a bad fall last weekend, he fell backwards and smacked his head on concrete, cracked his head open didn’t even put his arms down so his head too the full fall. He’s on the road to recovery, the hospital is very happy with him and all his tests came back great.
He is on the mend but his confidence has been knocked and he seems to have taken a huge leap downhill, he was slowly getting worse and now even more confused, he forgets where he lives, he forgot how to go to the toilet. Granted he’s worse when he’s tired but I just really need some advice on what to do next.
My mum won’t put him in a home so we are trying carers again, he did have them last year but didn’t like them so stopped letting them in, but we just don’t know what we can give him to eat. He’s currently on meal replacements shakes but he’s losing a lot of weight.
Im 27 years old and I feel a bit alone trying to help my grandad and trying to be a parent to my mum aswell as trying to navigate my own grief and still work. I just need a bit of support or help but I really don’t know where to turn
Thank you
I lost my dad to skin cancer, I then lost my partner to lymphoma, and just over a year ago I lost my childhood dog, and lost my nana to lung cancer. Last month I also lost my auntie to bone cancer. I live with my mum and we went straight from losing my nana and being her full time carer to caring for my grandad. My mum is an alcoholic, she uses this to cope. But I’m 27 with all of this trauma and grief and now I’m a parent to mum too. I just need some help.
When we lost my nana, naturally now my grandad has shot down hill.
He stays with us during the day and goes home to sleep.
His hands are starting to lock and his speech is getting really bad. He is choking a lot and won’t eat solid foods. He can’t turn his head anymore and can’t walk well, if at all.
He is still so aware he is losing his memory, and gets extremely emotional, but he had a bad fall last weekend, he fell backwards and smacked his head on concrete, cracked his head open didn’t even put his arms down so his head too the full fall. He’s on the road to recovery, the hospital is very happy with him and all his tests came back great.
He is on the mend but his confidence has been knocked and he seems to have taken a huge leap downhill, he was slowly getting worse and now even more confused, he forgets where he lives, he forgot how to go to the toilet. Granted he’s worse when he’s tired but I just really need some advice on what to do next.
My mum won’t put him in a home so we are trying carers again, he did have them last year but didn’t like them so stopped letting them in, but we just don’t know what we can give him to eat. He’s currently on meal replacements shakes but he’s losing a lot of weight.
Im 27 years old and I feel a bit alone trying to help my grandad and trying to be a parent to my mum aswell as trying to navigate my own grief and still work. I just need a bit of support or help but I really don’t know where to turn
Thank you