Hi everyone
I’ve been caring for my mum for the past 3 years. She’s never been caring or easy to get on with but in 2006 she got particularly nasty with all her relatives making up lies screaming at them in public threatening letters and phone calls she drove all her family away including myself who she was particularly aggressive.
I was out shopping one day and bumped into her and she screamed at me that my dad was dead I realised how scared of her I was, he had Alzheimer’s but had died of cancer .Just looking at her I knew something was off , so I rang her a couple of weeks later, I have been looking after her ever since . She has Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia I managed to get her a brain scan and diagnosis fairly quickly. I have LPA with my husband since 2015 but didn’t use it until 2 years ago so in that respect getting things sorted has been plain sailing.
She has no idea there is anything wrong with her she insists she does everything herself the truth is I do everything undercover, I got her a Gardener ,sneaking food in, finances, medication, I’m running 2 homes .Thankfully she’s mellowed a lot in the past 6 months I think this is due anxiety. She thanks me a lot and it makes me sad because she’s vulnerable but I do think it’s the nearest thing I’ve ever had to a mother.
I’ve been caring for my mum for the past 3 years. She’s never been caring or easy to get on with but in 2006 she got particularly nasty with all her relatives making up lies screaming at them in public threatening letters and phone calls she drove all her family away including myself who she was particularly aggressive.
I was out shopping one day and bumped into her and she screamed at me that my dad was dead I realised how scared of her I was, he had Alzheimer’s but had died of cancer .Just looking at her I knew something was off , so I rang her a couple of weeks later, I have been looking after her ever since . She has Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia I managed to get her a brain scan and diagnosis fairly quickly. I have LPA with my husband since 2015 but didn’t use it until 2 years ago so in that respect getting things sorted has been plain sailing.
She has no idea there is anything wrong with her she insists she does everything herself the truth is I do everything undercover, I got her a Gardener ,sneaking food in, finances, medication, I’m running 2 homes .Thankfully she’s mellowed a lot in the past 6 months I think this is due anxiety. She thanks me a lot and it makes me sad because she’s vulnerable but I do think it’s the nearest thing I’ve ever had to a mother.