Hi, I am caring alone for my 91 year old mum with Alzheimer's and mixed dementia, diagnosed over 2 years ago, who is living alone in my town. She is deteriorating month on month and although when I read some of the threads here I think she is doing well, I am seeing her confused existence escalating. Mum is amazing with regards to overcoming life's problems but this is takin hold of her quickly now. I am 68 years old myself and find the stress of all this harder to take as the weeks go on.
She has always been an incessant talker and now it's unbearable - constant repetition. She gets aggressive if I don't pay 100% attention & won't let me do any jobs to take off the torture. I am managing the situation JUST, sometimes, but she won't have a carer or helper & she dislikes anyone trying to help out.
We go abroad after Christmas every year for 3 months & I did sign up an agency for a visit, initially , once a week to begin. They have to take off their uniform & badge before they visit her as she wouldn't entertain them if she knew who they are. I have told her they work for the NHS memory service and its a thing they do... she won't let them do anything for her and so they just sit and chat & that keeps her happy sometimes. I am trying to hatch a plan for this coming winter holiday as time is running out for us too as my husband is 70 in soon. How may healthy years do we have for travelling ? or am I being selfish ?. We have worked hard all our life raising a family da de da de da...
The sad part is that if mum was easier to manage life would be fuller for her but she works against me so much.
Any way this is my story up to now....
She has always been an incessant talker and now it's unbearable - constant repetition. She gets aggressive if I don't pay 100% attention & won't let me do any jobs to take off the torture. I am managing the situation JUST, sometimes, but she won't have a carer or helper & she dislikes anyone trying to help out.
We go abroad after Christmas every year for 3 months & I did sign up an agency for a visit, initially , once a week to begin. They have to take off their uniform & badge before they visit her as she wouldn't entertain them if she knew who they are. I have told her they work for the NHS memory service and its a thing they do... she won't let them do anything for her and so they just sit and chat & that keeps her happy sometimes. I am trying to hatch a plan for this coming winter holiday as time is running out for us too as my husband is 70 in soon. How may healthy years do we have for travelling ? or am I being selfish ?. We have worked hard all our life raising a family da de da de da...
The sad part is that if mum was easier to manage life would be fuller for her but she works against me so much.
Any way this is my story up to now....