Hi all - Long story short.
My father (87.5yrs) is doing amazingly well in some respects. Diagnosed 8yrs ago, needs lot of help, late stages for sure but still mobile, slowing but slower than we thought. His constitution is amazing but he cannot be left alone and needs help with all daily tasks, dressing, prompting to eat - forgets to eat mid-meal. My husband is worried that mother won't be able to support him upstairs and could leave taps running (however he sleeps most of the time and is never unsupervised in the bathroom etc)
My mother (85.6yrs) main carer has a rare muscle condition (myositis) and is likely to be in a wheelchair in next 4-10mnths. We have care in most days and will look to increase.
They hoped they would be able to remain in their home as long as possible but soon the upstairs might be off-limits for mother (we have a stair lift but she is starting to struggle to get off seats) so we either need to help them a) stay where they are and make a few home adaptations b) move to a new home (very stressful and they are reluctant to do) c) something else??
My worry is that this is a huge upheaval at this late stage in their lives. We did discuss it a couple of years ago but my mother thought things wouldn't play out as is and didn't want to move - she loves her home. My husband and I would totally have them live with us - we have no chd and work from home) we have downstairs that would accommodate (pending bit of DIY which we need to do and will fund ourselves). I know many view this as not the best idea but we know how challenging it is to sell and find the next house due to chains etc.
Any advice welcomed - sleepless nights here to help them be happy as can be and together in their final months-years.
My father (87.5yrs) is doing amazingly well in some respects. Diagnosed 8yrs ago, needs lot of help, late stages for sure but still mobile, slowing but slower than we thought. His constitution is amazing but he cannot be left alone and needs help with all daily tasks, dressing, prompting to eat - forgets to eat mid-meal. My husband is worried that mother won't be able to support him upstairs and could leave taps running (however he sleeps most of the time and is never unsupervised in the bathroom etc)
My mother (85.6yrs) main carer has a rare muscle condition (myositis) and is likely to be in a wheelchair in next 4-10mnths. We have care in most days and will look to increase.
They hoped they would be able to remain in their home as long as possible but soon the upstairs might be off-limits for mother (we have a stair lift but she is starting to struggle to get off seats) so we either need to help them a) stay where they are and make a few home adaptations b) move to a new home (very stressful and they are reluctant to do) c) something else??
My worry is that this is a huge upheaval at this late stage in their lives. We did discuss it a couple of years ago but my mother thought things wouldn't play out as is and didn't want to move - she loves her home. My husband and I would totally have them live with us - we have no chd and work from home) we have downstairs that would accommodate (pending bit of DIY which we need to do and will fund ourselves). I know many view this as not the best idea but we know how challenging it is to sell and find the next house due to chains etc.
Any advice welcomed - sleepless nights here to help them be happy as can be and together in their final months-years.