I’m finding that whenever my dad and I visit my mum in the care home she gets completely panic stricken before we arrive. She’s so worried we won’t come and she’ll burst into tears when she sees us, gets very pancicky and starts shouting. I was talking to the nurse today and I could hear shouting where was I and saying she wanted to die. As soon as we take her out for a drive she’s fine and we can have a decent conversation but her panic is extreme which upsets other residents. The others all seem reasonably calm and some don’t even have visitors. My mum is on so much medication I don’t think there’s anything else they can add.