Thank you @Banjomansmate. Yes that is right. Obviously not sure what but he is being checked, so just a wait. Thank you ☺️ x
Hi @Spottydog. I think that I will take that on board. Unfortunately his dose is too high for the pen now, so it’s drawn from the bottle. It was apparent that he felt he does a good job with this and it’s good to make me think about workarounds (which I will). Thank you xOh dear, I'm sorry to read that things are still tough. I hope your dog is OK.... I agree it's best to take over the dosing but I did wonder if there is some sort of insulin reminder system where your husband can retain some input but you could step in if its not been done right, like an insulin pen ? You are perfectly entitled to feel cross... A very stressful time on many fronts and I hope you get some answers soon xxx
Hi @Violet Jane. Thank you - yes I think that I am going to get a routine that means he can still do this but I’m checking somehow. I could draw it up in the needles the night before but there’s a possibility of them going in the sharps bin with the insulin and I won’t know. Going to have a think about it today. Thank you xI'm afraid that this is another red flag and if he's like that at work I'm not surprised that he's having problems.
I think that you are going to have to check up on the insulin dosing now.
Of course, people do make mistakes but it's a question of frequency and understanding and accepting that you have made a mistake.
Hi @canary. Thank you and I hope things are ok.Oh boy, that sounds so familiar @RM3
OH is completely unaware of anything around him that isn't directly involved with him too. The cereal made me laugh I'm sorry to say - he now doesn't even tell me that it's run out, he just leaves the empty box open on the kitchen worksurface to "inform" me that he needs more.....
Hi @Violet Jane. Yes that is right. I am also surprised at how determined he is to stick it out.I have to say that it's surprising that your husband is still in his job. However, having just passed his probationary period he has probably bought himself some time. I think that what's worrying is that your husband has changed in a number of different ways: personality, memory and functioning at work.
Absolutely right, it’s the reaction to the error which is often a giveaway.Everyone can misread something or make a mistake but if it happens often that's a cause for concern. It's also how you respond to the error. If you understand and accept the error when it's pointed out to you or you realise that you've made an error that's one thing. But not understanding or accepting the error is another.
What do your daughter and SIL think?
Yes that’s right. I think it’s the processing something like that. He was trying to read the numbers out to us to sort the time out, so my daughter asked to look and said what the time was.Everyone can misread something or make a mistake but if it happens often that's a cause for concern. It's also how you respond to the error. If you understand and accept the error when it's pointed out to you or you realise that you've made an error that's one thing. But not understanding or accepting the error is another.
What do your daughter and SIL think?
Hi @hillyjay. You haven’t written too much at all. I’m so grateful to chat and hear other people’s thoughts and experiences. Posts about early changes and signs, are something I spend a lot of time searching for. So many things are subtle and as you say, normal days make you doubt your concerns.@RM3 - I think I’ve written too much here already but I just had to respond to this. I‘ve recently been diagnosed with gallstones too after an ultrasound and guess what? My husband’s reaction was exactly the same. ‘Oh? Ok’.
I‘m so sorry to hear you lost your Mum recently, you’ve got to deal with your grief for her too and that’s when we long for that care. Xx
Hi @hillyjay. Thank you for responding. That is exactly it. It is knowing that if I told someone how worried I was and used say one of the many things on its own as an example - I would sound silly for worrying.Just another one of those little things that anyone could make a mistake over. Except…it’s yet another thing. We’ve all been where you are, @RM3. I still wonder occasionally if it’s a normal mistake or his dementia when things go wrong but what we do know is if what is happening is not what is normal for our partners.
Your daughters and Dublin - OH and I have just had an almost identical conversation this morning, only in this case it was one of our sons going to Greece. I’d shown OH the photos they’d sent, they’d had a good flight etc, and this morning he asked me when they were going . Yep, timing!
Just a footnote too - been for my ultrasound this afternoon (just to check for Gallstones). I saw him at lunchtime before I went and we discussed me being grumpy because I couldn’t eat or drink. He’s in from work now and not a word of how did it go. I tested the water by saying I’m glad to have eaten now after my scan - he laughed and said thought you seemed happier. Not a word to ask how it went!Hi @hillyjay. Thank you for responding. That is exactly it. It is knowing that if I told someone how worried I was and used say one of the many things on its own as an example - I would sound silly for worrying.
It is just what you say - it’s the picture we build up from all of these things together.
Your oh’s comment and mine, are just so similar in their thought process aren’t they. They know the crux of the story but the timing of events is out.
Although it is just a small thing, like you say, we just know it feels wrong for them.
Well we are back at the doctors on Friday, following on from his blood tests last week. So we will see what the plan is (if any).
I might take in a bullet point of concerns and examples prior. It’s hard to say too much in front of them because I don’t want him to feel bad and also be like - why did you say all of that stuff.
Thanks again and I hope that you are doing ok. X