My 93yr old mum has moderate dementia, some days she is quite lucid & can appear coherent to people who don’t know her. she has a intercom to speak to people before she buzzes them in but recently she doesn’t seem to know who she’s talking to & so let’s anyone in. she informed me when I visited her that someone had just left but she had no idea who they were, had I not visited when I did she would have forgotten to tell me this.
she is also pressing her fob & leaving her door open which she is unaware of.
I have contacted social services regarding her going into a care home for her own safety but as mum is refusing this they say they can’t force her.
as you can imagine I am beside myself with worry.
mum is very frail & housebound. Carers come in twice a day for personal care, she has a cleaner once a week, meals are delivered every day.
mum is still able to go to the toilet on her own & make herself a drink buts that’s it. She spends her day sitting watching tv
I feel a care home would be of great benefit for her as she gets very anxious & depressed being on her own.
but as she is unable to self fund there is nothing I can do.
i am totally exhausted from caring for her & am on antidepressants & have pain due to mobility issues.
iI don’t have a life due to my care role. I don’t get a day off.
any advice would be greatly appreciated
she is also pressing her fob & leaving her door open which she is unaware of.
I have contacted social services regarding her going into a care home for her own safety but as mum is refusing this they say they can’t force her.
as you can imagine I am beside myself with worry.
mum is very frail & housebound. Carers come in twice a day for personal care, she has a cleaner once a week, meals are delivered every day.
mum is still able to go to the toilet on her own & make herself a drink buts that’s it. She spends her day sitting watching tv
I feel a care home would be of great benefit for her as she gets very anxious & depressed being on her own.
but as she is unable to self fund there is nothing I can do.
i am totally exhausted from caring for her & am on antidepressants & have pain due to mobility issues.
iI don’t have a life due to my care role. I don’t get a day off.
any advice would be greatly appreciated