Yes I emailed Adult SS and told them I could no longer cope. They emailed me back straight away and they contacted my doctor who called me later that day. It was great to get some help, but help is still limited. When my OH was violent I was told repeatedly that the only solution was to sell our home and split the proceeds which would have left me in financial difficulty. But at least the anti psychotic medication helped and has made life a little easier.
Hi
@JaxG
you are entitled to live a life without violence to or towards you (mental and/r physical)
Keep a written diary of all incidents. It may be needed later and a contemporaneous note is better than trying to remember details.
If your OH is or maybe violent to you then you need to immediately call 999 for an ambulance to take OH into secure hospital care for a violent PWD - they may be section him and apply for DoLs.
If the matrimonial house is in his name, your name or joint names, as a spouse you have a right to remain living in that home as long as you wish and the house would not be taken into account in any means testing because of your right to live in it.
If the house is in joint names, it could be owned by you two jointly as "joint tenants" or by you two as "tenants in common". This is nothing to do with a tenancy.
If the house is in joint names as "tenants in common" then it means each joint owner only owns their separate share separately.
Where a property is owned by two or more persons as "joint tenants" then the owners all own all of it (and on a death of one joint owner it passes automatically (ie, irrespective of what's in any Will) to the surviving owner/s. In this case, you could serve a letter on your OH to sever the joint tenancy, so that you then become tenants in common, and this "severance" should be registered at H M Land Registry and it would mean that your OH or the LA ASS cannot make any claim against your separate half of the property.
You may need to check the position at H M Land Registry or speak with solicitors who acted for you when you bought the house, and if necessary, they can check the position for you.
If OH is placed in a care home the LA ASS would want details of you OH's assets. He would be self funding if his assets, other than the house, exceeded £23,250. Is there a LPoA in place?
One adult (for example, you) is not legally bound to look after or pay for the care of another adult (for example, your OH) unless you choose to do so.
Best wishes