My mum will this week get the letter regarding staying in continuously for 12 weeks.
My mum is disabled , diabetes, depression and looks after my step dad who has vascular dementia late mid stage, as well as cold and many other health problems. Although he doesn’t remember every thing he remembers to want to drink alcohol, although we know it’s habit as a break from coffee, we have changed his wine to none alcoholic to which he hasn’t noticed which is great, mum and Roy used to socialise ( for mums benefit) at the local social club, this now has closed but trying to get this through to Roy my step dad is frustrating, he watches the news all day, calls mum all sorts of names regards to having to stay in, his is only since Saturday and it’s already getting my mum down, I’m really worried she will have a break down due to the isolation, even though we agree with it we’re not living with it. I phone regulars and text regular but she feels so lonely, I’ve previously arranged for admiral nurses to visit but he just insulted them and out of embarrassment and the hassle mum cancelled them coming out. He stares at the tv but you can tell he isn’t understanding it, continually denying who she is or repeating questions, but now she has no escape. I told her today about her getting a letter and I will then try and make a safe decision but I am debating if I should have them at my home, I only go out for essentials. This would be hard for Roy as different house etc but better for my mum. Really not sure which way to turn with this one . Advice appreciated
My mum is disabled , diabetes, depression and looks after my step dad who has vascular dementia late mid stage, as well as cold and many other health problems. Although he doesn’t remember every thing he remembers to want to drink alcohol, although we know it’s habit as a break from coffee, we have changed his wine to none alcoholic to which he hasn’t noticed which is great, mum and Roy used to socialise ( for mums benefit) at the local social club, this now has closed but trying to get this through to Roy my step dad is frustrating, he watches the news all day, calls mum all sorts of names regards to having to stay in, his is only since Saturday and it’s already getting my mum down, I’m really worried she will have a break down due to the isolation, even though we agree with it we’re not living with it. I phone regulars and text regular but she feels so lonely, I’ve previously arranged for admiral nurses to visit but he just insulted them and out of embarrassment and the hassle mum cancelled them coming out. He stares at the tv but you can tell he isn’t understanding it, continually denying who she is or repeating questions, but now she has no escape. I told her today about her getting a letter and I will then try and make a safe decision but I am debating if I should have them at my home, I only go out for essentials. This would be hard for Roy as different house etc but better for my mum. Really not sure which way to turn with this one . Advice appreciated
