Hi All,
I am new to the board. My Mum is 82 and has dementia. She is in its latter stages. I have been left alone to care for her after family difficulties. They are content to shout from the sidelines but offer little help. Money is no object but time and caring is. So I came to take care of Mum after she had burnt herself. I have been here nearly two years. Through a combination of unwanted family pressure and seeing my Mum deteriorate I guess, I tried to kill myself in April '17. It was of no hindered to my continued care and little consequence to Social Services. I was recommended to seek respite.
It is easy to say and less easy to do. I do not want to condemn my Mum to a care home, even for as little as two weeks. I do not socialize, do not stop caring for Mum. I do not have to tell anybody here about how hard it is. I am taking medication for stress, depression and anxiety but again, as long as I take the medication, the authorities do not worry.
I worry. I worry I am not doing enough for my Mum. I worry that she is unhappy or upset. I worry that I am not good enough for her.
She knows my name but that is only because I am here every day. She does not really know who I am or what I am to her.
When do I consider full time care (in a home)? Am I wrong to think this? Can they do more for her than I can? Can she been happy there? How do I do it?
Thanks for listening.
I am new to the board. My Mum is 82 and has dementia. She is in its latter stages. I have been left alone to care for her after family difficulties. They are content to shout from the sidelines but offer little help. Money is no object but time and caring is. So I came to take care of Mum after she had burnt herself. I have been here nearly two years. Through a combination of unwanted family pressure and seeing my Mum deteriorate I guess, I tried to kill myself in April '17. It was of no hindered to my continued care and little consequence to Social Services. I was recommended to seek respite.
It is easy to say and less easy to do. I do not want to condemn my Mum to a care home, even for as little as two weeks. I do not socialize, do not stop caring for Mum. I do not have to tell anybody here about how hard it is. I am taking medication for stress, depression and anxiety but again, as long as I take the medication, the authorities do not worry.
I worry. I worry I am not doing enough for my Mum. I worry that she is unhappy or upset. I worry that I am not good enough for her.
She knows my name but that is only because I am here every day. She does not really know who I am or what I am to her.
When do I consider full time care (in a home)? Am I wrong to think this? Can they do more for her than I can? Can she been happy there? How do I do it?
Thanks for listening.