Where do I start, hmm, ok, 3 weeks ago I found my dad 78, his dead body slumped in a blanket box, and he'd been there left for 3 days, with my very confused mother of 82 not eaten or gone out for 3 days either, all the while with a dead body at the end of her bed, thinking that he'd left her for another women, after 51 years of marriage, it was a shock to say the least, at not just finding my dad, but finding my mother in the state she was, let's just say, my dad hid it well, he did everything for her, not because she was lazy, but because she can't mentally cope, I realise this now after 3 weeks of very hard work, and raw emotion, anger, resentment, and dismay, at what my father has left me with, I've literally stepped into his shoes and taken over where he left off, mum is incapable of doing most every day things we take for granted, so I've been doing all the important decisions and thinking for her, because she can't, we are on the waiting list for our memory clinic appointment, which should be January hopefully, but it can't come quick enough to be honest, mentally and emotionally I am spent, I feel so tired, and I can't rest, my mind is occupied with mum, but to make matters worse, I have a pre- teen, and a 10 year old with special educational needs, and a husband who works late shifts, and along with sleeping I hardly see, and for nearly 4 weeks I've been spending my days with mum, then at 3pm I have to go and pick up my son, then come home and be a mother and wife, and all the worry and stress and aniexy since dad passed, has caught up with me, and it's taken its toll, as mentally I am spent, I have no extra energy, and I feel like my life has been thrown upside down and inside out, and I don't know what to do, I did'nt ask for this, and to be honest I don't necessarily need this stress in my life, but at the same time, there's this genetic pull that keeps pulling me back towards my mum, basically forgetting and neglecting the rest of my family, I am a nice person, and I can't be selfish towards my mother, as my mum is very vulnerable at the moment, and I can't give up on her, but my family need me also, so I feel very much between a rock and a hard place here, and it's not easy.