WHY DONT
YOU
BELIEVE ME?
I AM 53 YEARS OLD!!!
53 YEARS OLD JUST TURNED!!
I HAVE ALZHEIMER`S (EARLY ONSET)
WHY DONT YOU BELIEVE ME???
DOES ANYONE BELIEVE ME??
DO I BELIEVE ME??
These are but a few of the things that run through my head every time the subject of Dementia is brought up with either people I haven’t seen for a while or people we meet. I can see it in their eyes! I can almost hear the doubt quickly run through their minds as I try to explain how a thing like this could have happened to me at 53yrs old. DEAR GOD!! I was diagnosed at 50yrs old and had problems a while before that!!
Nobody warns you about these feelings, nobody has wrote a book of instructions of how to deal with emotions and un answered questions which you ask yourself time and time again!! Or is that just me?? Sometimes when I sit there at the memory cafe`s and look around me I can see my future. A future so bleak sometimes it’s hard to put into words what thoughts run through my mind. Every day I struggle with my emotions and understanding of the illness I have. Yes I read about it all the time and yes I am learning something new every day, but too what end? I sometimes have trouble believing if I actually have this awful disease as I can’t remember most of the bad times. And If I can’t convince myself what chance do I have of convincing others??
It’s at times like this the self doubt creep`s in and as I sit here writing this I have this awful feeling of impending doom at any moment now!! My stomach turns in tight knots and my hands shake as if I have had too much to drink the night before (misspent youth). I begin to doubt my abilities not only as a family man but also my life in general. I want to provide for my family so I know all will be ok in the future; I want to make sure they are all settled and happy. A billion thoughts like this race through my mind at a million miles an hour.
Then it feels as if my heart has just hit my stomach floor and all seems so dark and distant. Nothing seems worth the effort, nothing seems worthwhile and every little thing in my life is worried about, scrutinised and grossly overestimated in so many ways. I stop listening to my Angel who says! We will cross that bridge ECT” I think everything is going wrong and nothing and nobody can solve this one for me. I feel as if I am worthless because I can’t do what I want to do and I can’t do what I used to do. I feel as if I can’t do anything, and I also feel as my life is coming to an end and it’s so out of mine and my families control.
THIS IS THE REALITY OF ALZHEIMER`S
THIS IS THE REALITY OF A DIAGNOSIS
THIS IS THE REALITY OF MY LIFE FROM TIME TO TIME.
Please don’t pity me and please don’t feel sorry for me, on my good days I help run the Alzheimer’s cafe`s and the Torbay Dementia leadership group as well as writing several blogs here and abroad.
But please, the next time someone tells you they have dementia, no matter at what age, please just take that little extra time to try and understand how hard it is for them to tell you something like this and how they wish things were different, PLEASE
Best wishes, Norrms and family xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
YOU
BELIEVE ME?
I AM 53 YEARS OLD!!!
53 YEARS OLD JUST TURNED!!
I HAVE ALZHEIMER`S (EARLY ONSET)
WHY DONT YOU BELIEVE ME???
DOES ANYONE BELIEVE ME??
DO I BELIEVE ME??
These are but a few of the things that run through my head every time the subject of Dementia is brought up with either people I haven’t seen for a while or people we meet. I can see it in their eyes! I can almost hear the doubt quickly run through their minds as I try to explain how a thing like this could have happened to me at 53yrs old. DEAR GOD!! I was diagnosed at 50yrs old and had problems a while before that!!
Nobody warns you about these feelings, nobody has wrote a book of instructions of how to deal with emotions and un answered questions which you ask yourself time and time again!! Or is that just me?? Sometimes when I sit there at the memory cafe`s and look around me I can see my future. A future so bleak sometimes it’s hard to put into words what thoughts run through my mind. Every day I struggle with my emotions and understanding of the illness I have. Yes I read about it all the time and yes I am learning something new every day, but too what end? I sometimes have trouble believing if I actually have this awful disease as I can’t remember most of the bad times. And If I can’t convince myself what chance do I have of convincing others??
It’s at times like this the self doubt creep`s in and as I sit here writing this I have this awful feeling of impending doom at any moment now!! My stomach turns in tight knots and my hands shake as if I have had too much to drink the night before (misspent youth). I begin to doubt my abilities not only as a family man but also my life in general. I want to provide for my family so I know all will be ok in the future; I want to make sure they are all settled and happy. A billion thoughts like this race through my mind at a million miles an hour.
Then it feels as if my heart has just hit my stomach floor and all seems so dark and distant. Nothing seems worth the effort, nothing seems worthwhile and every little thing in my life is worried about, scrutinised and grossly overestimated in so many ways. I stop listening to my Angel who says! We will cross that bridge ECT” I think everything is going wrong and nothing and nobody can solve this one for me. I feel as if I am worthless because I can’t do what I want to do and I can’t do what I used to do. I feel as if I can’t do anything, and I also feel as my life is coming to an end and it’s so out of mine and my families control.
THIS IS THE REALITY OF ALZHEIMER`S
THIS IS THE REALITY OF A DIAGNOSIS
THIS IS THE REALITY OF MY LIFE FROM TIME TO TIME.
Please don’t pity me and please don’t feel sorry for me, on my good days I help run the Alzheimer’s cafe`s and the Torbay Dementia leadership group as well as writing several blogs here and abroad.
But please, the next time someone tells you they have dementia, no matter at what age, please just take that little extra time to try and understand how hard it is for them to tell you something like this and how they wish things were different, PLEASE
Best wishes, Norrms and family xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx