Mums CPN now seems to think Mum is now doing ok & said Mum had told him she is eating ok & said she was confused when she came home last week from the care home but was now a lot better. I know she not eating enough (although ate a frozen meal a carer helped her to cook yesterday but won't cook it herself & she is still confused a lot but he said he can only go on what he sees when he visits her. I don't think he believes me when I tell him that:
1: She goes out but doesn't really know where she has been but luckily does find her way home
2: Went up the road to the paper shop on Sunday which takes about 1/2 hour there & back but was out 2 hrs but Mum still insists that's the only place she went to.
3: Leaves windows open when she goes out (lives in a bungalow) & Mum thinks its ok as she wasn't out long.
4: Takes painkillers but can't remember what time she has taken them.
Now has carers coming in 3 times a week but not sure how long that will last this time around (has already had 2 lots of carers in earlier this year but stopped them).
CPN then said a doctor is going to see Mum to see if she has capacity, then they will be having another best interest meeting, which he wants me to attend, unfortunately he doesn't seem to understand, I can't just hop on a 7 hour flight when it's convenient to them. Next he said he's had a good chat with Mum & he told her about her memory problem again, at which point I lost it I said I didn't want him mentioning it to her as she gets upset but he insisted she was ok with it & that we should keep mentioning it to her so she understands. I asked to speak to Mum & asked her if she understands what he said to her, she said he mentioned lots of things, so I said what does she feels about what he said about her memory, Mum just said, well lets face it, what do you expect at my age!
What I can't understand is, why he feels the need to keep mentioning Mums memory to her & what can I do to stop him mentioning it to Mum again Mum seems to tell people what they want to hear, so comes across really well.
Now not sure where to go next or what to do. Any help will be appreciated.
Lima x
1: She goes out but doesn't really know where she has been but luckily does find her way home
2: Went up the road to the paper shop on Sunday which takes about 1/2 hour there & back but was out 2 hrs but Mum still insists that's the only place she went to.
3: Leaves windows open when she goes out (lives in a bungalow) & Mum thinks its ok as she wasn't out long.
4: Takes painkillers but can't remember what time she has taken them.
Now has carers coming in 3 times a week but not sure how long that will last this time around (has already had 2 lots of carers in earlier this year but stopped them).
CPN then said a doctor is going to see Mum to see if she has capacity, then they will be having another best interest meeting, which he wants me to attend, unfortunately he doesn't seem to understand, I can't just hop on a 7 hour flight when it's convenient to them. Next he said he's had a good chat with Mum & he told her about her memory problem again, at which point I lost it I said I didn't want him mentioning it to her as she gets upset but he insisted she was ok with it & that we should keep mentioning it to her so she understands. I asked to speak to Mum & asked her if she understands what he said to her, she said he mentioned lots of things, so I said what does she feels about what he said about her memory, Mum just said, well lets face it, what do you expect at my age!
What I can't understand is, why he feels the need to keep mentioning Mums memory to her & what can I do to stop him mentioning it to Mum again Mum seems to tell people what they want to hear, so comes across really well.
Now not sure where to go next or what to do. Any help will be appreciated.
Lima x