Good morning . I'm posting this question because I'm not sure how to proceed or what sorts of questions I need be asking, so I'm hoping forum members can advise and maybe point me in the right direction.
Basically, it's to do with my elderly Mum. She's 83, a widow, and lives alone some 3/4 hr. drive from me with the aid of a lovely home help who comes in once a week to help out with things Mum can no longer do around the house. Mum has numerous health problems - macular degeneration so had to give up driving eight years ago, asthma, diabetes, IBS, plus she's had a heart attack and TIA in the past with a full stroke about 18 months ago. I am Mum's only known living blood relative and have myself had a heart attack nine years ago followed by a stroke eight years ago so I have an idea of how some of Mum's health problems affect her.
Yesterday Mum and I travelled up to London for my daughter's Uni graduation presentation and as it was a while since I'd seen Mum I was shocked by the deterioration in her condition since I'd last seen her. Mum looks very frail and walks with a stick outdoors, plus she asks me a question to which I give an answer, then five minutes later she asks me the same question again.
I'd say that her mental capacity has decreased somewhat - she didn't keep on asking the same question repeatedly at the beginning of the year - although she does have enough of her wits about her to have written her will and to be considering a pre-paid funeral plan.
Yesterday, Mum introduced the question of a pre-paid funeral plan into the conversation herself; I told her I'd thought she ought to consider something like this but wasn't sure how best to introduce the subject myself. I know Mum has written a will and I have the contact details for her solicitor (who holds the will) in the event of Mum's death. Mum said she wants me to come up and visit her to discuss her finances in detail; I know she has some stocks and shares but not the amounts. Also, when it comes to the question of the pre-paid funeral plan, what sorts of questions should I be asking Mum - other than that she wants to be cremated I have no idea of her funeral wishes.
If anyone on this forum can offer advice on how to proceed or what questions I should be asking or points I should now be considering, I'd be very grateful
Basically, it's to do with my elderly Mum. She's 83, a widow, and lives alone some 3/4 hr. drive from me with the aid of a lovely home help who comes in once a week to help out with things Mum can no longer do around the house. Mum has numerous health problems - macular degeneration so had to give up driving eight years ago, asthma, diabetes, IBS, plus she's had a heart attack and TIA in the past with a full stroke about 18 months ago. I am Mum's only known living blood relative and have myself had a heart attack nine years ago followed by a stroke eight years ago so I have an idea of how some of Mum's health problems affect her.
Yesterday Mum and I travelled up to London for my daughter's Uni graduation presentation and as it was a while since I'd seen Mum I was shocked by the deterioration in her condition since I'd last seen her. Mum looks very frail and walks with a stick outdoors, plus she asks me a question to which I give an answer, then five minutes later she asks me the same question again.
I'd say that her mental capacity has decreased somewhat - she didn't keep on asking the same question repeatedly at the beginning of the year - although she does have enough of her wits about her to have written her will and to be considering a pre-paid funeral plan.
Yesterday, Mum introduced the question of a pre-paid funeral plan into the conversation herself; I told her I'd thought she ought to consider something like this but wasn't sure how best to introduce the subject myself. I know Mum has written a will and I have the contact details for her solicitor (who holds the will) in the event of Mum's death. Mum said she wants me to come up and visit her to discuss her finances in detail; I know she has some stocks and shares but not the amounts. Also, when it comes to the question of the pre-paid funeral plan, what sorts of questions should I be asking Mum - other than that she wants to be cremated I have no idea of her funeral wishes.
If anyone on this forum can offer advice on how to proceed or what questions I should be asking or points I should now be considering, I'd be very grateful