Hello - I'm full time carer for my husband who has vascular dementia. We are both in our 80's and I'm finding it very hard to look after him after a recent deterioration in his condition. He is falling regularly and neither he nor I have the strength to get him onto his feet. He wants to go to bed earlier and earlier and would prefer to stay there all day and night. I think this is caused by depression as at times he is very aware of what is happening to him. Other times he is very confused and doesn't even know who I am. It's extremely upsetting and I suspect from reading other members' messages that it's time I looked into respite care.
Vascular Dementia
- Thread starter JudeW
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my husband has vascular dementia diagnosed almost 4 years ago now. he gets confused and i have to explain very clearly what i need him to do. he would stay in bed if i didnt call him and sometimes its lovely to just be by myself waking up before i call him. hesays he warm and comfortable and it makes for a long table if hes up too early. he does go to mens shed 2 mornings a week which is when i get my break. he likes the banter and does some lighter stuff. hes 75 but also has COPD which can be limiting on its own.
have you had a care assessment and carers assessment? has he claimed attendance allowance? it all helps.
Hello @JudeW and welcome to the Dementia Support Forum. This is a great place for support and understanding for people who are affected by dementia in any way.
It's tough for sure, caring for a loved one with dementia, There is no getting round that.
I would say if you feel that the time has come for more care support, then this is the right time to move forward with it.
As @jennifer1967 has said, it would be wise to get SS to do a care needs assessment for your husband and a carers assessment for yourself.
I am attaching a couple of links that you may find useful:
www.ageuk.org.uk
www.alzheimers.org.uk
Please do remember you will always find understanding and sound advice and suggestions here from members who really do want to help. It's also a good place to let off a bit of steam when you need to.
It's tough for sure, caring for a loved one with dementia, There is no getting round that.
I would say if you feel that the time has come for more care support, then this is the right time to move forward with it.
As @jennifer1967 has said, it would be wise to get SS to do a care needs assessment for your husband and a carers assessment for yourself.
I am attaching a couple of links that you may find useful:
The Care Needs Assessment Explained | Age UK
You will need to complete the Care Needs Assessment in order to be eligible for support from social services. Find out more from Age UK.
www.ageuk.org.uk
Vascular dementia: Understanding your diagnosis
If you have recently been diagnosed with vascular dementia, this booklet is for you. It will help you, and your family and friends, to understand more about the condition and how it can affect you.
www.alzheimers.org.uk
