Today, while in town, I saw my cousin, whom I have not seen since over a year ago, who asked after my mother.I informed her that she had passed away at the end of November. She was annoyed that she had not been contacted. Well, since I did not have her number and cannot recollect the last time she did call, I had decided to post the notices in the paper rather than bother trying to track down relatives who had been absent when I needed them. " So you didnt think to contact me? " she said.I replied that it had been a lovely service, attended by mum's friends, ie those who had actually looked after her. I wasnt trying to be rude, but having looked after mum all on my own as an only child with NO offers let alone help from any of those connected to me by DNA, I wasnt inclined to bend over backwards to accomodate them so they could make a show of being caring , sharing relatives. This encounter got me really upset, even tho' I know that what I did is only what mum would have wanted.