It's now just over 2 years since I lost my husband. He had dementia but died from a heart attack. At the time of his death he had been in care for 12 months. I had gone through a range of emotions, including anger and depression. The anger was because I discovered he'd cheated on me during the last decade of our marriage. By the time he passed away, I had recovered and my grieving was actually over.
After his death though, I felt so broken, like half of me was missing. I couldn't bear the the thought of being alone. I soon met a lovely man who was head over heels in love with me. I liked him a lot and love him and we married about 10 weeks after my husband passed away. So many things in my life have changed and I have put away thoughts of loss and grief for my former husband. Now, however, I have moments when he comes to mind and I feel so guilty about so much ... how I could have been a better wife, how impatient I was with him at times when he had dementia. I wish I could go back and 'fix' everything to make a happier ending. I know I can't. Why are we always wiser after the event?
After his death though, I felt so broken, like half of me was missing. I couldn't bear the the thought of being alone. I soon met a lovely man who was head over heels in love with me. I liked him a lot and love him and we married about 10 weeks after my husband passed away. So many things in my life have changed and I have put away thoughts of loss and grief for my former husband. Now, however, I have moments when he comes to mind and I feel so guilty about so much ... how I could have been a better wife, how impatient I was with him at times when he had dementia. I wish I could go back and 'fix' everything to make a happier ending. I know I can't. Why are we always wiser after the event?