Dad's health and mentle health is rapidly deteriorating. Had the gp today as he is having lots of falls. He currently lives in sheltered housing. The gp wants a review on Monday as he thinks we need to look at full time care. Dad has always been so against this. Before he even got I'll he made me promise to never put him in a home. I don't know if he would even know what's going on any more as he's now so lost. In a way the dr getting involved has taken a weight off of my mind as it's something I've been thinking about a lot latley but don't want to let my dad down. Would it be best to try rest bite in a home to see if my dad liked it or absolutely hated it. Thing is if he hates it what happens then? He's always been so antisocial and loves his own space so I think he'd hate sitting in a communal area. But if he liked it or was totally indifferent to the situation it would make things easier, ild hate for him to be unhappy and can't help feeling that I'm letting him down. I really don't feel I can cope with this and I don't know what to go for the best anymore.
So my question I guess is how have others done this. Also I don't have power of attorney or anything and am his only next of kin. Should I fight a little longer for him to stay at home or am I being cruel or is it crueler to take all decisions away and agree with the dr. Would it confuse him more to go away and come back again? He's not very lucid at all but sometimes he is. He knows I'm important to him and knows my name, he loves my children but he can't comprehend much more than that. How have others dealt with this? X
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So my question I guess is how have others done this. Also I don't have power of attorney or anything and am his only next of kin. Should I fight a little longer for him to stay at home or am I being cruel or is it crueler to take all decisions away and agree with the dr. Would it confuse him more to go away and come back again? He's not very lucid at all but sometimes he is. He knows I'm important to him and knows my name, he loves my children but he can't comprehend much more than that. How have others dealt with this? X
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