My Mum is 80 years old and was diagnosed with Alzheimers last month. We are very concerned that she is not only forgetful (we can accept that) but she keeps asking us to collect her from the 'other house' and drive her back home (she has lived in her house for over 30 years) but when we ask her where she wants to go she gives us her home address. She seems to think that her home is two separate houses - one where she is happy and calm, and the 'other house' is where she is when she is distressed. She also thinks that there are five or six strange men who live in the 'other house' with her, and they all look exactly like my Dad. Has anyone else had this happen, and do you have any advice as to how to deal with this?
We refer to this as an 'attack of the multiples' in our house
According to my Mil there are two of me, there are two of my husband (her son) and two of each of the kids - there are even two dogs - and the 'others' live in a house that looks identical to ours, even down to the same pictures on the wall and furnishings. She can ask me what I am making for tea, go to the loo, come down, ask again - and I give the same answer, and she will say 'Oh - that other woman is making that too!'.
She will ask me where 'S***' is - my husband, her only child - and I'll tell her and she will say 'Not your S*** - I mean My S****'. Sometimes her son is her husband, and she will be adamant that I am married to the 'other S***'. The children, her grandchildren, she will tell me, are the 'double' of her 'nephews and nieces' in the other house. And why is it, she wants to know, that every dog she meets is called the same name, and looks exactly like the dog that her son has? And isn't funny that we live in this town - because her son and his wife live there too
The hardest aspect is trying to answer her questions when she is in this mode, as who she thinks we are - which of the two Anns, or two 'S***' she thinks she is talking to - can change in the middle of a sentence. And she can get so cross at us 'deliberately trying' to confuse her.
We distract as much as we can, though not always successfully - and other than that, we just try and ride it out and do what we can to divert her getting cross when we can't follow exactly who is who and where they are, in her head.
You have my sympathy I really wish I did know a way round this one