Hello everyone. This forum is truly supportive and helpful. I'm new to posting. I am 54 and my sister is 51. Our mother 81 years old and who lives over 200 miles away, moved into a care home 3 weeks ago after 3 months in a mental health hospital. She has had dementia symptoms for several years and has been in complete denial from the beginning. My Dad, who has Parkinsons, has been her carer but could no longer cope with the role. Mum was drinking too much and had malnutrition. She refused all assistance and would not let carers in the home. Eventually she was sectioned. It has been horrific. My Dad is devastated,lonely and wracked with guilt. She is livid with him and is verbally aggressive and hostile. She was never exactly a shrinking violet and is a fairly uncompromising woman but the dementia has made her unbearable. My question is how do I help my Dad understand this is not his fault and come to acceptance? He is very depressed. My sister is overwhelmed and says she feels she will never be happy again. Im not close to my Mum but feel the weight of sadness all around me. How on earth do we cope with a Mum who hates us all so much and does not recognise her own cognitive decline and aggression?