I'm not sure if its still early stages or if we are going into second/middle stage.
So now my PWD seems happy to just sit on sofa all day either watching T.V. although nods off from time to time, or does a word search (same page all day) so not sure how much he is really doing and how much his mind is vacant.
Does do a walk round the outside of the house some days. Yesterday took his slippers off. Put left shoe on then left slipper back on but on right foot.
Doesn't seem interested in going out. I don't suggest it now so it doesn't happen. Didn't want to go to memory café this week which he had said he enjoys.
Isn't at all interested in what or how I'm doing.
If I try to get him motivated, I get accused of 'picking on him' 'telling him off' or 'having a go at him' so I've now stopped and let him do his own thing rather than argue (he was always difficult and only ever did what he wanted anyway)
The house/garden is looking a mess as I can't be bothered but he doesn't seem to notice or care.
Has a wash ever day but makes excuses about having a shower so been quite a few weeks now. He gets up about 9am but takes until about 11am to come downstairs. Seems to take him ages to wash and dress now.
Uses a pee bottle at night as he insists he can't make the toilet in the night. I don't have a problem with it if he feels more comfortable, just wish he would empty it as soon as he's up.
He does still make his breakfast, a sandwich or drink. I try not to do this all the time to make him do something, I do cook dinner and afternoon cake.
I've noticed he is laughing at T.V. programs. Like yesterday with gogglebox. Something he never did before.
Accusing me of taking money.
If an argument started over something really silly, he got very abusive. Telling me no one likes me, Everybody thinks this or that of me, I'm a f****g such and such. and brings things into the argument which are totally unrelated. So now I try not to say anything that will get him going, which is really difficult.
There isn't any communication, he only speaks to me if he wants something. He can go most of the day without saying a word. If I don't try and make a conversation we sit in silence, which doesn't seem to have any affect on him. But his sister phones same time, one a week. He insists on answering then chats to her for an hour. After the call, he goes back to sitting on sofa in front of T.V. again in silence as if I'm not there. He never says what they've been chatting about it's as if it never happened.
Went through a violent stage, lashing out but thank fully that has stopped.
So can anyone tell me if we are still at early stages or now entering next/middle please?
So now my PWD seems happy to just sit on sofa all day either watching T.V. although nods off from time to time, or does a word search (same page all day) so not sure how much he is really doing and how much his mind is vacant.
Does do a walk round the outside of the house some days. Yesterday took his slippers off. Put left shoe on then left slipper back on but on right foot.
Doesn't seem interested in going out. I don't suggest it now so it doesn't happen. Didn't want to go to memory café this week which he had said he enjoys.
Isn't at all interested in what or how I'm doing.
If I try to get him motivated, I get accused of 'picking on him' 'telling him off' or 'having a go at him' so I've now stopped and let him do his own thing rather than argue (he was always difficult and only ever did what he wanted anyway)
The house/garden is looking a mess as I can't be bothered but he doesn't seem to notice or care.
Has a wash ever day but makes excuses about having a shower so been quite a few weeks now. He gets up about 9am but takes until about 11am to come downstairs. Seems to take him ages to wash and dress now.
Uses a pee bottle at night as he insists he can't make the toilet in the night. I don't have a problem with it if he feels more comfortable, just wish he would empty it as soon as he's up.
He does still make his breakfast, a sandwich or drink. I try not to do this all the time to make him do something, I do cook dinner and afternoon cake.
I've noticed he is laughing at T.V. programs. Like yesterday with gogglebox. Something he never did before.
Accusing me of taking money.
If an argument started over something really silly, he got very abusive. Telling me no one likes me, Everybody thinks this or that of me, I'm a f****g such and such. and brings things into the argument which are totally unrelated. So now I try not to say anything that will get him going, which is really difficult.
There isn't any communication, he only speaks to me if he wants something. He can go most of the day without saying a word. If I don't try and make a conversation we sit in silence, which doesn't seem to have any affect on him. But his sister phones same time, one a week. He insists on answering then chats to her for an hour. After the call, he goes back to sitting on sofa in front of T.V. again in silence as if I'm not there. He never says what they've been chatting about it's as if it never happened.
Went through a violent stage, lashing out but thank fully that has stopped.
So can anyone tell me if we are still at early stages or now entering next/middle please?