Hi @CLau256 , I'm hoping the Occupational Therapists saw through your grandmother's partner's insistence about the stairlift and were looking at what your grandmother actually needs. Whatever happens it sounds like she needs more help coming in, than she is actually getting. A downstairs wet room sounds good, but if she can't actually get to it, it isn't going to help.
Do you think George might be in the early stages of dementia too? Obsessing about things sounds very like my mother's behaviour when she was still at home She got stuck on whatever she thought would improve her life and shifting her from it was very tricky. In mum's case it was changing the locks so the neighbours couldn't get in (they weren't).
To be honest, I am not actually sure if the lady who came round was actually an Occupational Therapist or if she was just a social care worker. We thought she was the OT (since that’s who we made the referral to) but then she said she will need to get the OTs into the house. So I am not sure how qualified she was to make the comments or if it was just her opinion. If one day she eventually needs wheelchair, I think the wet room would probably meet those needs.
George has just always been a “faffy”person and a panicker for years and years. That’s just his personality. He’s not changed in the past ten years to be honest. He’s not very good at any household tasks, apart from putting M&S frozen meals in the oven. But like I say, he’s always been like that, it’s nothing new.