My husband, who is nearly 92 has been diagnosed as having Alzheimers for four years now. To all appearances he is a frail old man, but he is drawn towards young families and makes life impossible when we occasionally get taken out by one or other of our children.
This week our son took us for a pub lunch; my husband never knows know what he wants to eat unless it is vanilla ice cream with a flake and whatever he choses there is always something wrong, either too salt, dry etc.
Every time someone puts cutlery on a plate it is cleared instantly at home as well as out. He doesn't speak to us , but gets up and crashes in on some other peoples' conversations or asks children about school. My son dragged him away and spoke to him about how impolite it is and how embarrassing for all of us, but he ignores us, waits his chance and he is off again!
The result is that I am a perpetually on edge and expecting him to be punched in the face by some irate parent.
At bedtime I asked if he enjoyed his day and he answered Yes, but though he loves his son very much, he will not be dictated to as to how he lives his life. When I tried to explain there was a deathly silence and he turned his back on me.
We are going to stay at a relative's house to house sit for her and I am simply dreading it as everything is fiddled with and altered.
I know that I am very lucky to have had a marvellous man for 50 years, but the last 4 have been dreadful especially as my own health is not good. Has anyone else experienced this sort of behaviour and how do you cope?
veronicamary
This week our son took us for a pub lunch; my husband never knows know what he wants to eat unless it is vanilla ice cream with a flake and whatever he choses there is always something wrong, either too salt, dry etc.
Every time someone puts cutlery on a plate it is cleared instantly at home as well as out. He doesn't speak to us , but gets up and crashes in on some other peoples' conversations or asks children about school. My son dragged him away and spoke to him about how impolite it is and how embarrassing for all of us, but he ignores us, waits his chance and he is off again!
The result is that I am a perpetually on edge and expecting him to be punched in the face by some irate parent.
At bedtime I asked if he enjoyed his day and he answered Yes, but though he loves his son very much, he will not be dictated to as to how he lives his life. When I tried to explain there was a deathly silence and he turned his back on me.
We are going to stay at a relative's house to house sit for her and I am simply dreading it as everything is fiddled with and altered.
I know that I am very lucky to have had a marvellous man for 50 years, but the last 4 have been dreadful especially as my own health is not good. Has anyone else experienced this sort of behaviour and how do you cope?
veronicamary
