Hi All,
Thanks in advance for reading. I’ve not posted here for a while. Dad was formally diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a few years back, he’s had various visits from adult mental health teams and OT.
He lives alone, and one of my siblings lives nearby. Myself and other sibling are a few hundred miles away.
As you’d expect with a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s his condition is progressing and there have been a few incident along the way. But he’s been managing day to day to eat and drink, but not much else. He seemed happy enough.
We see now he’s not managing as well as he was, not keeping himself / clothes as clean, concerns about what he’s eating and when. Sibling does food shopping for him.
Poor compliance when taking his meds (diabetes and thyroid), more recently we’ve started noticing him sleeping in bed all day. Not all the time, but enough. Probably not sleeping at night. Doesn’t know where he is etc. confusing one sibling for someone else. Extreme short term memory issues. Forgetting conversations moments after having them. It goes on, as I’m sure some of this is familiar to many of you.
We do not have POA, are going through CoP deputy application currently.
He thinks he’s okay, nothing wrong with him. Will not accept carers coming in - he had a small fire this weekend, no major damage luckily but it’s all building to us having concerns around his safety at home alone.
Last visit from mental health team they suggested a medication box which is alarmed to the ensure medication compliance. Due to very high BP. This has since come down. He refused this and said he was fine and would comply. These visits are very stressful & upsetting for him as he likes to deny his condition.
We know he’s eating but habits are changing, the cognitive skills to cook are decreasing.
We also know he’s going out when he doesn’t need to & unsure when he’s out why he’s out.
Any advice on what we do next? It doesn’t seem like he’s safe living alone, how do we progress / update SS to get help.
He would be self funding but he won’t acknowledge or accept assistance. We can offer to pay for some care if we get the monies back when CoP comes through but it’s likely an hour a day.
It’s all a bit of a struggle and putting a lot of pressure on sibling who lives nearby. Who is being very gracious about it all. But it’s very difficult for them. Neighbours are aware and talking to us and each other about him (not negative- actually helpfully)
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance for reading. I’ve not posted here for a while. Dad was formally diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a few years back, he’s had various visits from adult mental health teams and OT.
He lives alone, and one of my siblings lives nearby. Myself and other sibling are a few hundred miles away.
As you’d expect with a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s his condition is progressing and there have been a few incident along the way. But he’s been managing day to day to eat and drink, but not much else. He seemed happy enough.
We see now he’s not managing as well as he was, not keeping himself / clothes as clean, concerns about what he’s eating and when. Sibling does food shopping for him.
Poor compliance when taking his meds (diabetes and thyroid), more recently we’ve started noticing him sleeping in bed all day. Not all the time, but enough. Probably not sleeping at night. Doesn’t know where he is etc. confusing one sibling for someone else. Extreme short term memory issues. Forgetting conversations moments after having them. It goes on, as I’m sure some of this is familiar to many of you.
We do not have POA, are going through CoP deputy application currently.
He thinks he’s okay, nothing wrong with him. Will not accept carers coming in - he had a small fire this weekend, no major damage luckily but it’s all building to us having concerns around his safety at home alone.
Last visit from mental health team they suggested a medication box which is alarmed to the ensure medication compliance. Due to very high BP. This has since come down. He refused this and said he was fine and would comply. These visits are very stressful & upsetting for him as he likes to deny his condition.
We know he’s eating but habits are changing, the cognitive skills to cook are decreasing.
We also know he’s going out when he doesn’t need to & unsure when he’s out why he’s out.
Any advice on what we do next? It doesn’t seem like he’s safe living alone, how do we progress / update SS to get help.
He would be self funding but he won’t acknowledge or accept assistance. We can offer to pay for some care if we get the monies back when CoP comes through but it’s likely an hour a day.
It’s all a bit of a struggle and putting a lot of pressure on sibling who lives nearby. Who is being very gracious about it all. But it’s very difficult for them. Neighbours are aware and talking to us and each other about him (not negative- actually helpfully)
Any advice would be appreciated.
