I do not post often But I read posts regularly and it makes me realise how most of you have it much worse than I do. But I am feeling angry. We have run an equine sanctuary in Crete where we live since 2006. Although we do not have so many animals now I decided that I needed volunteer help (and company). Everything was going fine until the last month when my OH has been so rude to our lovely volunteer….he either ignores her completely or today when she was talking to visitors he just walked off saying ‘blah blah f…ing blah’ in a loud voice. Bless her, she is so good about it but I fear that others will not be so understanding. When I think back this silence and rudeness started many years ago but he definitely was not like this when we got together. I find it so upsetting and actually hard to believe that he does not know what he is doing.
Rudeness tantrums
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Hello @Donk1
I remember your posts about your equine sanctuary
Im sorry your husband is being rude to your volunteer, but Im glad that she is being accepting about it.
Im afraid that rudeness is par for the course with dementia and, no, I think that most of the time they have no idea that they are being rude. Unfortunately, they lose empathy and can only see things from their own viewpoint, so are totally unable to see that things that they say sound rude to other people. I remember being out with OH and hissing quietly at him that he was being rude. I was so embarrassed, but he just looked at me in amazement with zero comprehension of what was wrong.
I remember your posts about your equine sanctuary
Im sorry your husband is being rude to your volunteer, but Im glad that she is being accepting about it.
Im afraid that rudeness is par for the course with dementia and, no, I think that most of the time they have no idea that they are being rude. Unfortunately, they lose empathy and can only see things from their own viewpoint, so are totally unable to see that things that they say sound rude to other people. I remember being out with OH and hissing quietly at him that he was being rude. I was so embarrassed, but he just looked at me in amazement with zero comprehension of what was wrong.
Hello Donk1 may I ask where your equine sanctuary is located. Crete is an island I love (I lived there for a while many years ago), and visit as often as I can. In just over 3 weeks I will be back there again ( if I can get care and support for OH securely in place in time)!
Hello…we are in the mountains above Ierapetra…where are you going? Would love to see you…,woukdn’t thatbe great
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