Hi Everyone not sure what's going to happen next, any word's of wisdom greatly appreciated: My mum has advanced vascular dementia is bed-bound with double incontinence and totally reliant on others for all aspects of care, including person care. My Dad & I cared for her at home until 8 weeks ago when, after 2 years of struggling, it became too much for us and we had to put her into a care home. The home seem very nice and assured us that they had staff trained in dementia care and could look after mum untill she passed (she's on palliative care). Unfortunately mum has rapidly gone down hill cognitively speaking and is refusing all aspects of personal care. She has become aggressive towards the carers and will only eat when family are present. Most of the time her pad is only changed when I visit and she has nasty bruises on her arms and hands. I have approached the management and they say that they cannot do anything if she won't let them. I'm screaming inside and don't know what to do next.... I've tried to find out what's the matter but all mum says is 'it's my body, my choice"... She has a DOLS for 60 days and lacks capacity. Any advice, please???