I have financial POA for my dad (he won't contemplate the health one so I'm biding my time until a diagnosis prompts further discussion). This came about because I found he had lost thousands through multiple charity donations and large lump sum withdrawals that we believe went to his 'best mate'.
One of dad's invisible brothers has now contacted dad to ask to borrow some of dad's things. Dad has an extensive range of rather costly pieces. He's also become a compulsive gifter so of course said yes even though he couldn't even remember what exactly it was his brother wanted to borrow by the time the phone conversation ended.
He's coming up to collect them while I'm at work, before I have any chance of taking stock of what dad currently has. I've asked the invisible brother (who didn't know I knew of this request) to make me a list of whatever he takes. I feel I am obliged to do this as a minimum, to keep my dad's property safe, but am I overstepping things here? Or should I have gone further and insisted it wait until I could be there? I know that pre-dementia dad would be happy to lend his things out, but he'd be just as keen to get them back.
I think my main problem here is that I feel I need to do right by dad but don't really know how far the POA remit goes.
One of dad's invisible brothers has now contacted dad to ask to borrow some of dad's things. Dad has an extensive range of rather costly pieces. He's also become a compulsive gifter so of course said yes even though he couldn't even remember what exactly it was his brother wanted to borrow by the time the phone conversation ended.
He's coming up to collect them while I'm at work, before I have any chance of taking stock of what dad currently has. I've asked the invisible brother (who didn't know I knew of this request) to make me a list of whatever he takes. I feel I am obliged to do this as a minimum, to keep my dad's property safe, but am I overstepping things here? Or should I have gone further and insisted it wait until I could be there? I know that pre-dementia dad would be happy to lend his things out, but he'd be just as keen to get them back.
I think my main problem here is that I feel I need to do right by dad but don't really know how far the POA remit goes.